"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sophomore in HS- need help

thegrandillusion

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I am currently a sophomore in high school and am trying to talk to this one girl I am interested in. She and I are part of a specialty program within our high school, so we take three classes in common (Sociology, Global Affairs, and English, although I am not in her rotation, or period, so I only see her in the halls during the day). She's not majorly attractive or anything but she's cute and seems like a good person to be in a decent/serious enough relationship with. I have kinda had a thing for her since freshman year but have never really pursued it. So anyway, I do have her cell number and she and I have had a texting convo once (about a week ago) and we generally talk with each other when we're together. She and I usually tease each other/flirt, but it has never seemed like she's that interested romantically and I'm not sure how to get to that point. She (and I) are fairly intelligent and down to earth, not drama/jealous type like a typical high school girl/guy. Also, I would've asked her to homecoming or something but got caught up in a really drama-y girl, and long story short, I now know how not to get friend-zoned or be an emotional tampon. The only problem I've ever had is she's not really in the same friend circle as I am, although if I got to know her well enough it wouldn't be weird if she were to hang out with me and my friend circle. She's also not majorly more popular than me, so it's not like a relationship between us would be unrealistic. Any ideas on how to get to know her better/talk more/eventual date scenario thing? Thanks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LearningSlowly

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Text her and say "Hey! Lets go to a movie/get ice cream/go to a park this weekend! I cant do Saturday, so friday or sunday?"

Simple as that homey. Try it out.

Make sure you kiss her on the first date.
 

thegrandillusion

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Well I mean I've never hung out with her in public, especially alone... you think I should just plant one on her the first time we would be hanging out together?
 

Nick1886

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Make sure you hint thats its a "date" in the text though... whether thats simply just adding the line 'just you and me?' otherwise it could get a bit weird
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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alxrose04

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As soon as she gets there, treat it like a date. Take her arm and but on your's, give her kisses on the forehead, high-five her, or hug her whenever she does something cool. Just make sure to make her heart race every now and then, and touch her because the absence of those two things will definitely land you in the friend zone.

Good Luck!
 
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