Hello everyone.
I started going out with this girl, but it has been kind of strange, because I actually never knew (and still do not know) if I am dating or not!! (I know it sounds stupid, one should know, right??)... It started really slow (I actually posted before how it started), went out with her some times, and nothing, then after about 3 weeks just barely holding hands (not all the time), then saying Hi and good bye by a little kiss in the mouth (just a peck, nothing major).... I had tried to kiss her in amore serious way at some point, but she shied away, so I did not try again, and just let it go....
Well, next time we were having dinner, I tried again, and we ended up going all the way. It is weird, because I really like the girl, so my objective was not just to sleep with her, but I actually would like to explore a relationship with her. The action was ok, but nothing spectacular (I do not know about you people, but at least in my case the first time with someone is never that great, it becomes better and better with time, as you get to know and discover the other person better). So anyway, after we were together, my impression was that she did not want to do it yet, (she just became somewhat distant). I have not initiated contact with her, she has called me, but it has been just chit-chat, just as before it happened...that is perfectly fine with me, although I wonder if we are actually still in the same point that we were before it happened, or if things have changed... the thing is that I am pretty sure that if I ask, then I would know, but I would be closing any door that was potentially opened. I guess what I should do is just let her be, and see how she behaves towards me when we see each other again.
It is very weird, I am not really sure if I actually dated (or am dating) this girl!!. What sucks is not knowing...
Any input, comments, are welcome.. Thanks!
Fairguy
I started going out with this girl, but it has been kind of strange, because I actually never knew (and still do not know) if I am dating or not!! (I know it sounds stupid, one should know, right??)... It started really slow (I actually posted before how it started), went out with her some times, and nothing, then after about 3 weeks just barely holding hands (not all the time), then saying Hi and good bye by a little kiss in the mouth (just a peck, nothing major).... I had tried to kiss her in amore serious way at some point, but she shied away, so I did not try again, and just let it go....
Well, next time we were having dinner, I tried again, and we ended up going all the way. It is weird, because I really like the girl, so my objective was not just to sleep with her, but I actually would like to explore a relationship with her. The action was ok, but nothing spectacular (I do not know about you people, but at least in my case the first time with someone is never that great, it becomes better and better with time, as you get to know and discover the other person better). So anyway, after we were together, my impression was that she did not want to do it yet, (she just became somewhat distant). I have not initiated contact with her, she has called me, but it has been just chit-chat, just as before it happened...that is perfectly fine with me, although I wonder if we are actually still in the same point that we were before it happened, or if things have changed... the thing is that I am pretty sure that if I ask, then I would know, but I would be closing any door that was potentially opened. I guess what I should do is just let her be, and see how she behaves towards me when we see each other again.
It is very weird, I am not really sure if I actually dated (or am dating) this girl!!. What sucks is not knowing...
Any input, comments, are welcome.. Thanks!
Fairguy
