Sometimes women are more trouble than peace and quiet

[lizardking82]

I got this feeling lately from most women I meet or the ones I know already...like, once in a while, even some of the better ones cause I only talk to the better ones, not to trash women, even those, once in a couple of days, will snap with something absolutely unneeded.

Like, sometimes, I miss my last relationship. Not the girl, the person, but the kind of relationship it was. It was all peace and quiet 95% of the time, meeting, talking, having fun, discussing, having good sex. It's like it feels the better you become as a man, the more centered in your energy, the harder it is to find a person that is on that level.

Anyone ever felt the same or feeling the same lately?

 

[TheProspect]

It's like it feels the better you become as a man, the more centered in your energy, the harder it is to find a person that is on that level.

Anyone ever felt the same or feeling the same lately?

Disagree. The exact opposite for me.

Over the years, as I have improved and evolved, the quality of women I attract has also significantly improved.

When you begin to operate on higher and higher frequency levels, you become more visible to the others who share a similar frequency level as yours.

This isn't just appearance wise, but internally as well. The combination of your perceived status, internal state, and your physical appearance (body and fashion) determine what frequency you are on, in other words, you give off a certain energy that others will pick up and either a) gravitate towards, b) avoid altogether, or c) be totally unaware of / uninvested in your presence.

Your frequency can, and does, fluctuate often, to both higher and lower levels depending on where your previously mentioned determinants are at that moment. It does not stagnate.

When you are truly on the level of women you are seeking (provided you have reasonable expectations), you will not have to search them out, as they will appear spontaneously. By "expecting" to come across them, or trying to find one, you will only disappoint yourself. This is the nature of paradoxical intention.

 

[ubercat]

Problem is by definition you won't find most of the Peaceful ones out and about. Stop looking for librarians at the club. Quieter girls move in different circles. My girlfriend goes to yoga her gym class meets up with her close friends for dinner and spends time with me. You won't find her out at bars or nightclubs. Of course the younger girls are more social but the same principle applies.

 

[lizardking82]

Disagree. The exact opposite for me.

Over the years, as I have improved and evolved, the quality of women I attract has also significantly improved.

When you begin to operate on higher and higher frequency levels, you become more visible to the others who share a similar frequency level as yours.

This isn't just appearance wise, but internally as well. The combination of your perceived status, internal state, and your physical appearance (body and fashion) determine what frequency you are on, in other words, you give off a certain energy that others will pick up and either a) gravitate towards, b) avoid altogether, or c) be totally unaware of / uninvested in your presence.

Your frequency can, and does, fluctuate often, to both higher and lower levels depending on where your previously mentioned determinants are at that moment. It does not stagnate.

When you are truly on the level of women you are seeking (provided you have reasonable expectations), you will not have to search them out, as they will appear spontaneously. By "expecting" to come across them, or trying to find one, you will only disappoint yourself. This is the nature of paradoxical intention.

Most people I have in my life right now are somewhat from previous states of minds and energies so maybe that is why I am a bit torn between them. Maybe I should be a bit more patient and just keep on working with my own internal state and let the rest do itself.

 

[ubercat]

Patience is part of your internal state. Slow and steady wins the race.

 

[SeymourCake]

 

[Desdinova]

When you are truly on the level of women you are seeking (provided you have reasonable expectations), you will not have to search them out, as they will appear spontaneously.

I don't find that I attract certain "types" of women. I find that I start attracting more variety because I'm attracting more women.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

What about prostitutes?

 

[lizardking82]

I don't find that I attract certain "types" of women. I find that I start attracting more variety because I'm attracting more women.

Actually, I find that to be true, too. I attracted different types before as well, but lately I am attracting kinda jealous or moody women LOL. AND virgins and this is the funny part, I never attracted virgins before. Maybe it is just a matter of luck, I don't know.

I also have this old, probably unrealistic feeling of wanting to find a female that can be my teammate, my friend, not just someone who I **** and go away. But it is quite hard to find such women. One of the women I have right now in my life (somehow have) is quite nice in a lot of aspects, but jealous and insecure in levels that becomes bothering...the other is a virgin LOL

 

[sazc]

I It's like it feels the better you become as a man, the more centered in your energy, the harder it is to find a person that is on that level.

Anyone ever felt the same or feeling the same lately?

Once you have standards and expectations the pool from which you can choose from gets smaller. Yep.

 

[SeymourCake]

What about prostitutes?

You lose money and possible STDs for temporary pleasure.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Disagree. The exact opposite for me.

Over the years, as I have improved and evolved, the quality of women I attract has also significantly improved.

When you begin to operate on higher and higher frequency levels, you become more visible to the others who share a similar frequency level as yours.

This isn't just appearance wise, but internally as well. The combination of your perceived status, internal state, and your physical appearance (body and fashion) determine what frequency you are on, in other words, you give off a certain energy that others will pick up and either a) gravitate towards, b) avoid altogether, or c) be totally unaware of / uninvested in your presence.

Your frequency can, and does, fluctuate often, to both higher and lower levels depending on where your previously mentioned determinants are at that moment. It does not stagnate.

When you are truly on the level of women you are seeking (provided you have reasonable expectations), you will not have to search them out, as they will appear spontaneously. By "expecting" to come across them, or trying to find one, you will only disappoint yourself. This is the nature of paradoxical intention.

I don't have this happening to me. I feel that if I was still a loser, I probably would still be invisible to many women and open to the same ones. It seems out of my control who I do and don't attract. Obviously there is a difference, but it's mostly from what I will and will not tolerate and general social skills. Not from some vibe I have.

This raises another question though. Can you fake it? Obviously mindset is the most important, but can you fake having that attractive mindset? Can you fake a vibe?

 

[SgtSplacker]

"There is no honey without bees"

Man that one hits home to the heart of my issues with women. I grew up in a home that was chaotic, parents always arguing about nonsense. When I finally was old enough I left and was amazed how awesome living away was, no more chaos. Since then I decided to not tolerate anything that brings me back to that chaos I grew up in. So yeah no luck for me there, every girl I meet eventually starts giving me grief, drama, chaos.

 

[wifehunter]

Chaos is Satan's playground.

 

[lizardking82]

This raises another question though. Can you fake it? Obviously mindset is the most important, but can you fake having that attractive mindset? Can you fake a vibe?

You can fake it and cheat the inexperienced reader, but insecurities, unless worked on and resolved as much as possible, will be visible to a good reader of body language or they will become readable over time in subtle or open ways.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Well where/how did you meet her?

Problem is by definition you won't find most of the Peaceful ones out and about. Stop looking for librarians at the club. Quieter girls move in different circles. My girlfriend goes to yoga her gym class meets up with her close friends for dinner and spends time with me. You won't find her out at bars or nightclubs. Of course the younger girls are more social but the same principle applies.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Actually, I find that to be true, too. I attracted different types before as well, but lately I am attracting kinda jealous or moody women LOL. AND virgins and this is the funny part, I never attracted virgins before. Maybe it is just a matter of luck, I don't know.

I also have this old, probably unrealistic feeling of wanting to find a female that can be my teammate, my friend, not just someone who I **** and go away. But it is quite hard to find such women. One of the women I have right now in my life (somehow have) is quite nice in a lot of aspects, but jealous and insecure in levels that becomes bothering...the other is a virgin LOL

Where are you meeting these virgins and how/why do you attract them? I haven´t met/seen one in years.

 

[ubercat]

My current girl was a setup by friends. Normally I go quiet girl shopping in libraries, coffee shops, art galleries, bookstores, yoga, Taichichung and cooking classes. Adult education is a goldmine. Anywhere u might find a chick with a brain who has interest beyond the standard corporate drone. Community gardens and environmental centers r good if you don't mind Lefty chicks. I'm not political so I'll eat from both sides of the buffet. Meetup groups can be good because they have a wide variety of events but you can't be shy for those ones there's normally a c0ck Forest around the good looking girls.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Like, sometimes, I miss my last relationship. Not the girl, the person, but the kind of relationship it was. It was all peace and quiet 95% of the time, meeting, talking, having fun, discussing, having good sex. It's like it feels the better you become as a man, the more centered in your energy, the harder it is to find a person that is on that level.

Anyone ever felt the same or feeling the same lately?

In ancient Greek psychology personalities were divided into 4 temperaments. Of those, it seems like you'd fit into the phlegmatic category. A Phlegmatic's primary motivation is peace and harmony but they often end up dating the temperament called Choleric which are the bossy type who have to take control.

Phlegmatics usually feel as though as long as nobody is yelling, everything is ok. They are the ones who think more than they talk and are usually highly intelligent but don't feel the need to dominate a conversation or social situation. Choleric women will have a tantrum because the phlegmatic is the one kind of personality they can't really control.

These personality types are rarely talked about in modern psychology but having read a couple of books on them I can see everybody I know as either one of them or a primary and secondary type.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_temperaments

 

[ubercat]

Obviously I'm on board the self Improvement train. Now faking it is an interesting topic. Fake it until you make it might be a cliche but I think there's a lot of truth there. The brain responds well to patterning and small increases in progression a principle you guys should easily be able to grasp if you're lifting. I'll happily admit that in my early thirties I had a lot of inner game issues. Which I tried to paper over and of course they didn't go away. And then I learnt about game. Wihich threw me into a lot of social situations well beyond my comfort zone. And of course all the pua guys were talking about confidence. So I acted confident on hundreds of dates.

I remember a year later I ran into an ex of mine and of course did the deed at that time I was a relentless pvssy hound. She said my face it changed she couldn't believe how much more confident looking I was. And unsurprisingly then I had great trouble getting rid of her.