hahaha!perseverance said:You need a wingman like me, when I'm off my head on alcohol, I'll take a fattie for the team.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
hahaha!perseverance said:You need a wingman like me, when I'm off my head on alcohol, I'll take a fattie for the team.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SgtSplacker said:Only thing that peeves me is the cash/sex thing. It's perfectly OK for a girl to assume you are going to pay for stuff. But bust a move on that same girl and it's like "but were friends!".
If a girl has no sexual interests in you then she should not expect you to pay for her stuff, period end of story.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
So, Rob, I know it's not what you want to hear right now, but something to reflect on is the following truth:Robert28 said:the worst one's are the one's who lead you on before and during the date making you think you're going to get some only to "change their mind" and give some excuse after you already paid and had your mind set on potentially getting some. i'd rather a girl tell me up front "listen buddy, you aren't getting no pvssy tonight! end of story!" rather then leading me on and then throw up a brick wall at the end.
I gotta tell ya it seems like these problems may be exclusive to women that have been overexposed to western culture.Atom Smasher said:Robert is being a bit negative, but I am hard pressed to argue with anything he said.
I'm trying to find a way to be less negative in my perceptions, but I face this little problem of being fairly intelligent and having a tendency toward recognizing reality. So far I have found it impossible to find some kind of mental trick to override that awareness and come to terms.
God, that red pill hurts sometimes. There is no escape from the rabbit hole.
loveshogun said:So, Rob, I know it's not what you want to hear right now, but something to reflect on is the following truth:
The least successful people complain the most.
This was something I realized when I looked at all the successful, cool, smooth guys that I hung out with. They never had anything to complain about, ever. Even something that they were going through, where I would be like "man, that sucks, I would hate that situation" - they're just cool with it all. Doesn't affect them. With everything in life, they just do what they need to do and they're done with it.
You have valid points. But, somewhere out there, these guys are transcending your valid points. They're too busy being awesome and getting into hot ladies' underthings to notice the BS of lower quality girls.
Rant however much you need to for the next 24 hours. After that, be one of those cool guys who aren't caught up in the BS.
If women get under your skin and bother you, maybe you should focus more on something that isn't women.Robert28 said:lol not much bothers me in life, honestly, except women and the type of stuff i've listed. that stuff gets under my skin. i don't know why it just does, always has.
no you have me all wrong. i don't have a vendeta against ALL women, just the types i listed about. i know TONS of gals who are pretty cool and i get along just great with them. most are married or are dating my friends though. sure, there are a few i've had encounters with that i'd like to punch in the jaw, and deservedly so.loveshogun said:If women get under your skin and bother you, maybe you should focus more on something that isn't women.
Not trying to be sarcastic, but you know, if you literally feel like punching women (not a specific one, but pretty much all women), then I think you might have some issues you gotta work out.
No big. Just do what you gotta do. Figure it out, and try not to get yourself arrested.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Men can be slick too Robert. If you sense gold digger vibes through a dinner date, eat and run for the hills. Find an excuse to dip out. I've had to do this a few times.Robert28 said:no you have me all wrong. i don't have a vendeta against ALL women, just the types i listed about. i know TONS of gals who are pretty cool and i get along just great with them. most are married or are dating my friends though. sure, there are a few i've had encounters with that i'd like to punch in the jaw, and deservedly so.
CuriousGirl said:Tell you what, I'll let you punch me in the face when you truly understand women and how comically contradictory that top-10 post was.
You need to calm down, it's only dating, it's only women, it's not like winning the lottery and dropping the ticket down a drain.Robert28 said:that's always women's excuse. "but guys do the same things!". bullsh!t. maybe you should try understanding men, truly and not just what Cosmo tells you.
I agree with most of the other ones, but I disagree with this one. What if you're a female and the guys who are physically attractive are all wimps and don'tRobert28 said:3. I hate women that are hot but date ugly guys. I don't know why I hate it but it just pisses me off. wtf are they thinking? are they blind? I consider myself a 7 but at least I have standards. you'll never see me with a fattie on my arm just because she has a nice personality. I also hate fit women who constantly date fat out of shape guys. what is that all about?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.