Sometimes i think every woman needs an enemy. Just make sure it isnt you

[Ricky]

I want to discuss this detail at length but i am starting to feel that most women need an enemy or adversary in their life and its key to make sure it doesn’t end up being you.

its much better for her coworkers or a family member of hers to he the enemy instead of you.

lacking an enemy at work or within her family its likely that a woman you are dating or married to will turn on you for the necessary drama

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Easier to be a victim if you have an enemy.

 

[Clockwerk50]

1. I actually think women crave experience and emotion, even if it’s negative. Playing the victim gives them something to complain about, and in a strange way, that friction makes them feel more alive. It feeds the emotional patterns they often look for.

2. Also, people don’t usually avoid conflict because they’re genuinely kind, it’s more out of fear, insecurity, or the need to be liked. If something irritates you and you suppress it to keep the peace, you’re not being good, you’re just being afraid to displease.

3. I don’t fully agree with the idea that you should always avoid being the enemy. Sometimes, wounding them actually draws them closer and makes them more emotionally dependent in ways pure kindness never could. For example, alternating between harshness and kindness creates inner tension. They may get upset, but they start questioning themselves: What did I do to make him pull away? This self-doubt pushes them to invest more, and when you return to kindness, the relief becomes addictive. They start to depend on you, not just for affection, but for emotional stability, always chasing your approval. That push and pull makes the bond much harder to break.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I want to discuss this detail at length but i am starting to feel that most women need an enemy or adversary in their life...

Viewing the external world in polarized terms("Good guys" and "Bad guys", "Friends" and "Enemies", etc etc)is what comes naturally to us as humans. Women are no different. Avoid folks who haven't done the internal work necessary to get a hold on this habit

 

[LTG71]

Mostly they want/need some form of drama to invoke an emotional response. This could be anything from relationships to trash television. My wife and her friend have monthly gatherings where they watch horror films. Purely for the emotional rush, like porn for them.

Some women can’t just be happy with things running smooth either. They get bored and need stimulation. Even if that stimulation is detrimental to one’s peace. They get a dopamine hit from the drama.

Ironically men are the polar opposite in most cases. After a long day at work, fulfilling responsibilities and running the world. The last thing you want to deal with is drama and chaos. Don’t have the energy to be fighting with people.