"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Something wrong with my body language or just ugly?

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I was in a shop with my family yesterday, there was some kind of promotion and girls were walking around with free drinks.

You could hear her coming from far, asking everyone if they wanted something, explaining what it was etc. When she came to my family, she did the same. But when it was my turn, nothing, simply nothing.

I don't think I'm that ugly, I've been called good looking before. But I don't see any other reason, I think I have an open body language.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stop looking for it. Youll know when shes into you. She will make it known.
If your like me and are attracted to women that are a little more outgoing she WILL find a way to give you an indicator.
But i found the less you focus on getting attention the more attention you will get.
Then one day you simply will not give 2 fcks. In a very good honest way
It's not that I was looking if she was into me. It was just very obvious she was talking to every single person she was offering a drink, except me.
 

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What he looks like isnt the problem im sure. It usually is not the case. Within reason a guy can always date up based on his frame alone.
Correct. His frame right now is based on insecurity, in which a woman he's never met or seen before is capable of sending him to contemplate his physical value because of something she did (or didn't do).

It's not that I was looking if she was into me. It was just very obvious she was talking to every single person she was offering a drink, except me.
A day later you're still thinking about an ambiguous situation in which your interpretation is causing you to be extremely self-conscious. If you were indifferent and not emotionally invested in a trivial situation, you would have forgot about the thing immediately after it happened.

It's merely a trivial, ambiguous situation. Regardless of how you objectively look, get over it.
 

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Maybe she was just stunned by your magnificent presence... idk
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So take charge. Walk over to the chick plant yourself straight in front of her and say they look great I'd like to try one. How's the promo going r people into it?

If you get a bit of chat from her go for the number.

If she is cold who cares. It's a random chick she doesn't know you. And you just grew your balls a little bit. Keep growing them.

You are not powerless in any social situation if you don't like how the variables are playing change them
 

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Like i said. You just did it again.
I don't really get what you mean.

I don't lie awake because of this situation. "I lie awake" because my social skills with girls are way, way, way below average. Everything I say or do is so she would like me (and yes it's easier said then done to not give a f*ck). That situation at the mall just was another "in my face" of that something is wrong with me.
 

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I don't really get what you mean.

I don't lie awake because of this situation. "I lie awake" because my social skills with girls are way, way, way below average. Everything I say or do is so she would like me (and yes it's easier said then done to not give a f*ck). That situation at the mall just was another "in my face" of that something is wrong with me.

just post your pics dude. if you are 1 on 1 with woman and you had at least one in your life then you can easily fake being cool. social skills with women are not required (not to the core, they are nice to have) because in most cases they are with boyfriends that are inexperienced and beta
1. look
2. appearance
2. jokes (!!!)
 

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Another situation that happened couple of days ago.

I know I shouldn't care, but I do want to know why girls act this way.

I work with this broad from time to time on a 1 to 1 basis and at one of these moments it came to the subject of Facebook. I said 'I don't have you on Facebook I think' (this was a genuine remark, I honestly didn't know). So I checked and added her. As of this moment, she still hasn't accepted the request.

This chick is constantly on her phone, that plus the fact I clearly said "I don't have you Facebook" and she hasn't accepted? What the ****. To be clear, I have no sexual interest in her, she's totally not my type. When we work together, it's always friendly and chatty, sends me texts work and non work related, and as always no sign of that she can't stand me.

So honestly, can someone clarify?

And yes I know I shouldn't care, but I'm in a long process of getting better with chicks, and part of that is understanding.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Another situation that happened couple of days ago.

I know I shouldn't care, but I do want to know why girls act this way.

I work with this broad from time to time on a 1 to 1 basis and at one of these moments it came to the subject of Facebook. I said 'I don't have you on Facebook I think' (this was a genuine remark, I honestly didn't know). So I checked and added her. As of this moment, she still hasn't accepted the request.

This chick is constantly on her phone, that plus the fact I clearly said "I don't have you Facebook" and she hasn't accepted? What the ****. To be clear, I have no sexual interest in her, she's totally not my type. When we work together, it's always friendly and chatty, sends me texts work and non work related, and as always no sign of that she can't stand me.

So honestly, can someone clarify?

And yes I know I shouldn't care, but I'm in a long process of getting better with chicks, and part of that is understanding.
shes just busy chatting or using her 8 social media accounts
 
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