"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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anyone who's been through this or knows what i'm talking about PLZ respond. well, anyways I was doing great! My confidence skyrocketed, I was totally great, got some numbers, and I could feel all the love ^.~. Anyways, just a couple weeks ago everything seemed so different like I wasn't myself all of a sudden and it appeared everywhere. How do I get myself back together?:confused:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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what happened
 

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LOL Nope. let me explain more i guess...
well, lately I've acted more like an AFC like I'd consciously try to do what's right and not let things flow like they usually do and now i don't tease, c/f, flirt as much, and i tense up... aww ****. time to start boot camp again.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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1. Workout - releases chemicals that make you feel good and manly.

2. New threads - makes you feel good, because you feel fresh in your clothes. Try a different style, everybody's thugged out these days. Mix and match, find something that looks good on YOU.

3. Take a shower every single day - Does wonders for you. Don't ever skip a day.

4. Work - Get busy with your life! It's not all about women. The money you earn will help you buy new threads and
accessories like watches.

5. Haircut - Either maintain the one you have right now or find a new one. Always keep your hair maintained, a haircut can change how you feel about yourself! When my hair gets long, I don't feel very confident and it makes me not want to go out.

Just a few tips to keep you feeling good about yourself. Always works for me.
 

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As Matrix has always told me before....."If you loose something you can always get it back."

Good luck.
 
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Simple Homie - find out what changed along the way and solve/eliminate that part of the equation and you shall revert back to your greatness!!
 

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i get that same feeling week in week out.
there's one thing that always sends me back into that state of total confidence and self-belief, on top of what goldheart suggested.

see yourself as some sort of divine being on earth. your every move graceful, your posture perfect, your smirk so cheesy it's a wonder why every woman isn't wanting to bite your lips off. whenever i do this, i feel like i've got an army behind me. and it's much easier to get yourself into this state if you have been working out, have been eating properly, have been drinking loads of water and have been getting a good deep sleep (8hours is spot on; try not to go over or under this. i don't know why, but i always feel like shyt if i sleep for more than 9hours.)

and one more for goldheart's list. quit jackin it for 5days at a time. a testosterone boost and more energy come from doing this, not to mention the mental gain, knowing you have the willpower to manage such a thing.

one last thing i've tried. whenever you do find yourself in that "zone", make some sort of distinctive movement with your arms, like twist certain fingers back or twist your arms out to the sides. this anchors the feeling you have in that zone and upon performing the distinctive movement again, you should be able to enter that same state. as crazy as this sounds, it doesn't hurt to try it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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