"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Something to worry about?

tryst type

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Girl is meeting with her ex today to get some of her belongings back. She's moving away though (state over where we made plans to move together if I decide to school there) I'm wondering though if they'll give each other a "goodbye kiss"

Seems like ill never know, kinda troubling. Anyway I can mention my 0 tolerance for this before they meet up? How should I handle it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I would say :nono: BOBTRG but I'd first ask why would you date someone you aren't sure is over her ex or is it just a lack of your ability to trust her.
 

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Bobtrg?

He was supposed to drop off couple things and shed give me a call, that was over 2 hours ago. Am I wrong for assuming the worst right now?
 

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Theres no reason for a girl your dating to ever be associated with a guy thats f*cked her. Sounds fishy to me, i'd go ahead and put her on hooking up with him.....maybe a bit negative but that going to "get back belongings" excuse is so obvious.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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