"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Something to worry about?

tryst type

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Girl is meeting with her ex today to get some of her belongings back. She's moving away though (state over where we made plans to move together if I decide to school there) I'm wondering though if they'll give each other a "goodbye kiss"

Seems like ill never know, kinda troubling. Anyway I can mention my 0 tolerance for this before they meet up? How should I handle it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I would say :nono: BOBTRG but I'd first ask why would you date someone you aren't sure is over her ex or is it just a lack of your ability to trust her.
 

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Bobtrg?

He was supposed to drop off couple things and shed give me a call, that was over 2 hours ago. Am I wrong for assuming the worst right now?
 

EFFORT

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Theres no reason for a girl your dating to ever be associated with a guy thats f*cked her. Sounds fishy to me, i'd go ahead and put her on hooking up with him.....maybe a bit negative but that going to "get back belongings" excuse is so obvious.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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