"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Something That's Worked For Me

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I've heard a lot of guys talk about how you shouldn't spend money on women. That you should go on dates that require little money, and give the both of you a chance to get to know eachother. But you know what? A lot of women will see through your smoke screen and interpret that to meaning you're cheap.

Now I'm not just talking about gold diggers, most women get turned off by a guy who's clearly penny pinching, even if these women aren't necessarily looking for a wealthy man. It's gives the impression that you don't have class.


Here's an interesting idea I've tried, and it seems to work pretty well.

Once you've established that a girl has at least a moderate level of interest in you, and you're going on your first date, take her to an expensive restaurant. Don't go beyond your means, but put on a big show without being obnoxious.

Now here's the kicker.....IGNORE HER FOR ABOUT A WEEK AFTERWARDS....Why would you do this you might ask? Because while she might have thought you were just trying to impress her the first night, she'll wonder why the hell you didn't call her back right away and try to set up another date.

What this establishes, is she'll think it's normal for you to go to fancy restaurants, and that you weren't just rolling out the red carpet for her. It'll make you look classy, without appearing like you're trying to buy her love.

You might also want to send a dozen flowers after your second date, then be unavailable for a few days. These mixed signals are intriguing to women. On one hand you're sweeping her off her feet, on the other she isn't able to predict what you're going to do, or how you're going to act.

Contrary to popular belief, women love to be treated well, but they don't want to be put on a pedestal. If you can accomplish this, you'll have her eating out of your hand.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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joey2times said:
I've heard a lot of guys talk about how you shouldn't spend money on women. That you should go on dates that require little money, and give the both of you a chance to get to know eachother. But you know what? A lot of women will see through your smoke screen and interpret that to meaning you're cheap.

Now I'm not just talking about gold diggers, most women get turned off by a guy who's clearly penny pinching, even if these women aren't necessarily looking for a wealthy man. It's gives the impression that you don't have class.


Here's an interesting idea I've tried, and it seems to work pretty well.

Once you've established that a girl has at least a moderate level of interest in you, and you're going on your first date, take her to an expensive restaurant. Don't go beyond your means, but put on a big show without being obnoxious.

Now here's the kicker.....IGNORE HER FOR ABOUT A WEEK AFTERWARDS....Why would you do this you might ask? Because while she might have thought you were just trying to impress her the first night, she'll wonder why the hell you didn't call her back right away and try to set up another date.

What this establishes, is she'll think it's normal for you to go to fancy restaurants, and that you weren't just rolling out the red carpet for her. It'll make you look classy, without appearing like you're trying to buy her love.

You might also want to send a dozen flowers after your second date, then be unavailable for a few days. These mixed signals are intriguing to women. On one hand you're sweeping her off her feet, on the other she isn't able to predict what you're going to do, or how you're going to act.

Contrary to popular belief, women love to be treated well, but they don't want to be put on a pedestal. If you can accomplish this, you'll have her eating out of your hand.
why would anybody go through so much trouble just to have sex with a woman.

That is like the ultimate AFC thing to do.

I only take women on dates after I had sex with them.
 
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Anything that cost more than miniature golf is not on my entertainment agenda!!!
 

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Well his point of showing attention and interest in a girl then taking it away is valid. However, I don't think you should do that with expensive dinners and flowers.
 

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What the hell is this? Hitch?

Turn off the DVD player and get some experience in the field before wasting our time again. Furthermore, should you start to flame me know that I don't have any interest in arguing over the internet so I won't respond no matter how witty your comment is.

Thanks in advance.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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theoretically, this sounds really good

but in practice, trying so hard would probably diminish your soul (as well as your bank account) to the point that you would actually become a lesser man
 

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I think this would actually work just as OP said it would. The key is there must be some IL initially for it to really work, but it sounds like he knows what he is talking about here.
 

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it'll work but it's just a really expensive way to do a push-pull. and there are a million other ways to create attraction besides push-pull

you don't gotta be ballin outta control when you choose where to go, but if you're penny pinching so much you look bad, that's just some common sense sh!t you should KNOW not to do

point of a date is for you to get to know the girl, see if she meets your standards, and vice versa, that's it. that's the frame you should set at the beginning. you should never be trying to buy the pvssy
 

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Well another point is if she is going out on date with you, then there's a high likelihood she has some interest in you. But if you're luring her out on date with offers of an expensive dinner that's another matter.
 

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sorry Joey,

can't agree with you on this. Agreed with Ketostix and the rest of the members for the most part.

Iqqi, I agree that it could work theoretically, but in practice you and your bank account would suffer because of it.

Plus, all the girls that i have dated don't really mind.

My first date with my current girlfriend was for free. I didn't pay any money at all on her until I knew her for four months into the relationship.

comic_relief
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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