Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Interesting experiment they did.. for some reason, it really reminds me of what people go through with approach anxiety.

It was basically a study on having people go onto public transportation and ask people to give up their seats. A majority of them did, although both parties felt quite uneasy during the encounter.

The full article here
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Really good post, dude. I get this feeling of nausea when I break a lot of our social conventions... nice to know I'm not the only one.
 
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This topic is extremely interesting. I will be starting a new thread on it soon. I've been studying the fight or flight response in context to social situations. You know what the funny thing is, though? There is absolutely no way around it short of progressive desensitization. Your amyglia (primal response center in the brain) responds a few miliseconds before the signal can even reach your logical brain. There is no possible way to "convince" yourself other than doing it over and over - short of beta blockers (which I won't go into...)
 
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