"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Something related to approach anxiety

blackomen

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Interesting experiment they did.. for some reason, it really reminds me of what people go through with approach anxiety.

It was basically a study on having people go onto public transportation and ask people to give up their seats. A majority of them did, although both parties felt quite uneasy during the encounter.

The full article here
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

seanchai

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Really good post, dude. I get this feeling of nausea when I break a lot of our social conventions... nice to know I'm not the only one.
 
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This topic is extremely interesting. I will be starting a new thread on it soon. I've been studying the fight or flight response in context to social situations. You know what the funny thing is, though? There is absolutely no way around it short of progressive desensitization. Your amyglia (primal response center in the brain) responds a few miliseconds before the signal can even reach your logical brain. There is no possible way to "convince" yourself other than doing it over and over - short of beta blockers (which I won't go into...)
 
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