"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Something Just Ain't Right

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I accompanied a girl I've been seeing for a few months to a party at a club. I met a bunch of guys that she knew, but there was one guy in particular that was less friendly than everyone else and wouldn't make eye contact with me when we shook hands.

When me and this girl go out, we hold hands, nothing more, unless it's a quick peck on the lips. That night, she's trying to stick her tongue in my mouth in front of a bunch of people she knows, grabbing my ass, wanting to dance when she never wants to dance with me. And she didn't have enough to drink for that to be the reason. My question is whether the change in behavior should be a red flag or did the change in behavior coincide with partying with friends of hers?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yeah its a red flag.

She's just using you to make an ex boyfriend jealous basically or getting back at him for something and will probably be back with him before you know it.
 
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right on, KrontrollerX :up:

Also, you've been dating the girl for three months and that was the first time you passionately kissed her? No wonder she wants this other guy back instead of you.
 
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Obsidian said:
right on, KrontrollerX :up:

Also, you've been dating the girl for three months and that was the first time you passionately kissed her? No wonder she wants this other guy back instead of you.
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Come on, it's not the first time we kissed like that, it's the first time she kissed me like that in a public place. Public or private wouldn't have mattered, it's the fact that we were around a bunch of people she knew.
 
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mmmm I wouldn't get my heart involved, be fun and be cool and do you. I think its a red flag too, maybe you should ask, "ok boo, what guy are we gonna make jealous, that I have you?"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Like everyone is saying, MAJOR red flag. Actually, it's painfully obvious to me what she was doing, and you're right to suspect it. I think it's time to pull back a bit & see if she tries to reel you back in, IMO, that is, assuming you even still want to hang w/ her.
 
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Well if it's not the first time she kissed you like that then I wouldn't worry about it at all. Maybe she's trying to show you off to someone, maybe not. If she's still showing consistent interest levels toward you, who cares?


wanting to dance when she never wants to dance with me
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but as I asked earlier, why would she not want to dance with you before? Either she's being affectionate and loyal to you or she isn't. If she is, stop worrying so much. If she's not, dump her.
 
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