"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Something Just Ain't Right

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I accompanied a girl I've been seeing for a few months to a party at a club. I met a bunch of guys that she knew, but there was one guy in particular that was less friendly than everyone else and wouldn't make eye contact with me when we shook hands.

When me and this girl go out, we hold hands, nothing more, unless it's a quick peck on the lips. That night, she's trying to stick her tongue in my mouth in front of a bunch of people she knows, grabbing my ass, wanting to dance when she never wants to dance with me. And she didn't have enough to drink for that to be the reason. My question is whether the change in behavior should be a red flag or did the change in behavior coincide with partying with friends of hers?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah its a red flag.

She's just using you to make an ex boyfriend jealous basically or getting back at him for something and will probably be back with him before you know it.
 
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right on, KrontrollerX :up:

Also, you've been dating the girl for three months and that was the first time you passionately kissed her? No wonder she wants this other guy back instead of you.
 
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Obsidian said:
right on, KrontrollerX :up:

Also, you've been dating the girl for three months and that was the first time you passionately kissed her? No wonder she wants this other guy back instead of you.
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Come on, it's not the first time we kissed like that, it's the first time she kissed me like that in a public place. Public or private wouldn't have mattered, it's the fact that we were around a bunch of people she knew.
 
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mmmm I wouldn't get my heart involved, be fun and be cool and do you. I think its a red flag too, maybe you should ask, "ok boo, what guy are we gonna make jealous, that I have you?"
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Like everyone is saying, MAJOR red flag. Actually, it's painfully obvious to me what she was doing, and you're right to suspect it. I think it's time to pull back a bit & see if she tries to reel you back in, IMO, that is, assuming you even still want to hang w/ her.
 
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Well if it's not the first time she kissed you like that then I wouldn't worry about it at all. Maybe she's trying to show you off to someone, maybe not. If she's still showing consistent interest levels toward you, who cares?


wanting to dance when she never wants to dance with me
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but as I asked earlier, why would she not want to dance with you before? Either she's being affectionate and loyal to you or she isn't. If she is, stop worrying so much. If she's not, dump her.
 
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