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Something interesting I noticed about clubbing

Snowman23

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It's almost impossible to take a girl home the same night (an attractive one). They may seem all wild in the club, dancing having a good time, giving eye contact etc, but when the lights pop on they make a break for it with their friends. This seems to be a trend in most clubs/bars. Now I'm not saying nobody gets any numbers, but these one-night stands seem very elusive, not just for me, but the majority of guys. Unless they came with their boyfriend, they go home alone.

It's funny, at 2 am when everything closes the guys walk the streets looking for a drunk chick that's already left with their girlfriends, or driving by honking and yelling stuff out the window. This happens every night I've been out.

Unless the chick is REALLY hammered (most aren't, they just act like it), or they get lucky, it's not happening.

Even the smoothest guys in the club walk back to their cars alone.

Anybody else notice this and how can we counter this problem?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think you are right in that it is very rare to be able to get them back home - yet totally possible.
Girls in groups of more than 2 can be damn hard. I pulled an 8.5 in a club recently, and my mate pulled her fat mate at about the same time, but he couldnt keep her interest so she dragged mine away. If you can get ur wing to pull ur target's friend and then take them BOTH back, then its gonna be on because their anti slut defences will cancel each other out...girls in larger groups don't want to be the one that 'went home with some guy' which makes things alot more challenging. With regards to girls in clubs where you've never met them before, they've already decided whether or not theyre gonna find a shag for the night before they go out. The best way is to meet girls in bars, game them up to the best of your ability, and then 'bump into' them later that night, having made yourself high value in front of her and all her friends, so that she can justify going home with you because you are such a great guy to the point where her friends don't think shes a slut...because they'd all do the same with you.
One final kinda off topic point/tip: if you see a 2 set in a club, and one of them has pulled some guy, then the other one is EASY PICKINGS. Soooo so easy. She definately won't refuse a dance since she feels arkward on her own anyway, and as her mates pulling already, her anti slut defence is down. Take advantage when you see this.
 

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1. Clubs suck for gaming and as I say often should never be your main hunting ground.

But to successfully pull it off usually you need a two set and a wingman. Or a loner but there rare at the club..
 

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Huh?

I've taken loads of girls home from clubs, have a lot more success doing that than any other methods...

1. Offer them a drink or two from the table (not the bar - they don't know who is paying the tab on the table so you don't come across as anything other than wanting to party).

2. Dance with them a bit, build up some rapport.

3. If you've got this far you can easily judge whether she wants to go home with you or not.

Pretty simple, no? Works for me but tell me where I'm wrong here...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well, this post is kinda true from what I've seen.

I for one ain't into clubbing because I don't like the music they play (techno is a pet hate for me), but I do go out at times with my mates, and I've noticed the only chicks that wind up going home with someone are the same chicks who get taken home with some other guy every other week.
Like they are the town bicycle sorta thing.

I haven't actually found anyone decent while clubbing, and I do go talking to people, and I have chicks just come up to me (not sure why, people just come up to me and start talking to me like I actually know 'em from somewhere or something)... but nothin' to write home about.

The best chicks I've found so far have been from like, karaoke.. or through a friends friend sorta thing.
Never clubbin'.
Karaoke is cheating though since I can sing and everyone loves me 'cuz of it.
 

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Snowman23 said:
It's almost impossible to take a girl home the same night (an attractive one). They may seem all wild in the club, dancing having a good time, giving eye contact etc, but when the lights pop on they make a break for it with their friends. This seems to be a trend in most clubs/bars. Now I'm not saying nobody gets any numbers, but these one-night stands seem very elusive, not just for me, but the majority of guys. Unless they came with their boyfriend, they go home alone.

It's funny, at 2 am when everything closes the guys walk the streets looking for a drunk chick that's already left with their girlfriends, or driving by honking and yelling stuff out the window. This happens every night I've been out.

Unless the chick is REALLY hammered (most aren't, they just act like it), or they get lucky, it's not happening.

Even the smoothest guys in the club walk back to their cars alone.

Anybody else notice this and how can we counter this problem?
lol.. its called a mans' life and why there are strip clubs and prostitutes.. there are too many men in most places so men end up alone and desperate while women have too many options. Thats life and also why there are more transvestites
 

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Unless you really LOVE the club, why not focus on those bar/club places, the ones that have a solid dance floor but also a good patio or bar area? Those places work a LOT better for me... You can transition back and forth from dance floor to bar smoothly to isolate.

"Hey, let's grab a drink" or "Let's dance" is a lot easier than isolating in a pure club.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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King Turi said:
Well, this post is kinda true from what I've seen.

I for one ain't into clubbing because I don't like the music they play (techno is a pet hate for me)
That is my problem too. Music is such a big thing to everyone. If there is music playing REALLY LOUD that you hate, it's logical that you can't really enjoy yourself. Girls can feel that. No matter how many I approach it just doesn't work. I can make it work on the street or in a bar where I'm comfortable.
I haven't actually found anyone decent while clubbing, and I do go talking to people, and I have chicks just come up to me (not sure why, people just come up to me and start talking to me like I actually know 'em from somewhere or something)... but nothin' to write home about.
It's hard to really talk in a club because the music is f*cking loud.
 

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Find some places that play music you are into.

I don't have that luxury where I am, the ONLY club in my town ONLY plays techno music.

There's a few clubs in nearby towns but I ain't drivin' half an hour to get to 'em, as far as I can tell, it's still all techno, one plays RnB I think but even then, it ain't gonna be old school, it's gonna be this new RnB which all sounds the same and pretty much has techno beats anyway (which I hate).

..and yeah, the volume is hard to talk to people over, sometimes I'll have someone come up and move their lips at me for a few minutes then stare at me weirdly like I'm supposed to say something.
Very awkward, you have to basically keep yellin' out "What?" in their ears. :/
 

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Snowman23 said:
It's almost impossible to take a girl home the same night (an attractive one). They may seem all wild in the club, dancing having a good time, giving eye contact etc, but when the lights pop on they make a break for it with their friends. This seems to be a trend in most clubs/bars. Now I'm not saying nobody gets any numbers, but these one-night stands seem very elusive, not just for me, but the majority of guys. Unless they came with their boyfriend, they go home alone.

It's funny, at 2 am when everything closes the guys walk the streets looking for a drunk chick that's already left with their girlfriends, or driving by honking and yelling stuff out the window. This happens every night I've been out.

Unless the chick is REALLY hammered (most aren't, they just act like it), or they get lucky, it's not happening.

Even the smoothest guys in the club walk back to their cars alone.

Anybody else notice this and how can we counter this problem?
Come to think of it I don't think I ever did a one night stand with a girl I met at a club. The thing about clubbing is that really can't be the goal, and if it is it wont happen.

I did however meet a girl elsewhere, happen to see her at a club, and bang her in the parking lot, which was the only time we ever had sex to this day. That doesn't exactly count though because I did meet her elsewhere and just happened to see her at the club by sheer coincidence.

I have, however, met a girl at a club who went on to become a sex partner after just a couple of days of hanging out.
 

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Unless you're rich, famous, and own a Ferrari, that "Mad Dash" (You remember Chappelle's show, dont you?) will run you over. Women know how to play the game better than men. Also, remember the fact that you must not look desperate and that hanging in front of the club looking for a hammered girl or honking yelling randon stuff out the window will only get attention, not attraction.
 

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I never thought clubs were very difficult at all. In fact, that is the only place where I know how to pick up girls.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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