"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Something I unconsciously learned from this site

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That I'm not usually aware of until I see others doing it.

That thing is accepting people for who they are and not letting it get to me.

I see so many people get upset when they deal with others who have bad mannerisms/habits/logic and it ruins that person's day. You can tell they want so bad for them to be more like who they are or to smarten up etc.

I used to be this way but it's vanished since I became more aware of working on myself and realizing you can't change or even waste time trying to change others.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My ex wife had/has real issues with this, she was always trying to change me. In twenty years, she never learned. And to this day, she changes like a chameleon for other people. It's just sick...

I have learned that I am me. They can take it or leave it. Her friends noticed this about her, and they used it against me for their own entertainment. Don't let this happen to you.

In a nutshell, be true to yourself.
 
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