Something Does Not Seem Right In This LTR?

[soulforge]

Hey guys u may have read some of my previous posts.. been seeing this woman for around 6 months, we seem to get on fine, we have things in common.. the sex is good..

I have met her family etc.. we have even talked about living together once or twice...

But.. she has never once told me if she loves me? I have never told her either.. also the first few months of dating, she dropped hints that she may not want a relationship because she is older than me..

But later she suggested wanting to be in a relationship..

She does not seem like a very loving GF and rarely mentions pushing the relationship forward to the next stage etc..

She talks to me every day, also likes to spend alot of her time with me.. still i feel there maybe some low IL here... or she is a cold fish and not very loving by nature

Any thoughts?

 

[soulforge]

Hey guys u may have read some of my previous posts.. been seeing this woman for around 6 months, we seem to get on fine, we have things in common.. the sex is good..

I have met her family etc.. we have even talked about living together once or twice...

But.. she has never once told me if she loves me? I have never told her either.. also the first few months of dating, she dropped hints that she may not want a relationship because she is older than me..

But later she suggested wanting to be in a relationship..

She does not seem like a very loving GF and rarely mentions pushing the relationship forward to the next stage etc..

She talks to me every day, also likes to spend alot of her time with me.. still i feel there maybe some low IL here... or she is a cold fish and not very loving by nature

Any thoughts?

 

[marmel75]

My thoughts?

You are spending way too much time worrying about a low value woman in her mid to late 40s and if you need to worry about things the way you are, at least make it about someone worth worrying about. Like a hot chick 5-10 years younger than you.

And that isn't her.

Just saying.

You keep getting the same answer over and over, that this chick isn't worth being in a relationship with and you at most should keep her as a fvck buddy, but you apparently have no other options, she knows this, and so there is no urgency because she knows you are acting like a love sick puppy.

You keep asking for advice, get it from multiple people, but since it doesn't fit your already planned course of action, you choose to ignore it.

As Maximus Rex posted "Why the fvck are you asking for advice if you aren't going to follow it?"

 

[Skyline]

Read her actions...

You said she doesn't seem to want to move the relationship to the next stage yet you already met her parents and she's brought up living together within the first 6 months of dating.

She's not very loving but she likes to spend time with you.

I don't think this girl is for you if you crave affection, and she seems to move fast in my opinion.

Remember, the first 10 weeks of you being exclusive is the trial phase. If you two last that long without any issues, then you've got an actual relationship.

Any issues that you see within those 10 weeks with her are probably not going to change.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

She, like most women, are constantly weighing out their options.

Take control, make moves.. If she's not going for it, drop her like a bad habit.

That's just my mindset. Because there's no time to be wasting on bull****.. ESpecially don't waste your emotions..Emotions are powerfull... Drive them toward something progressive.. Not something confusing.

 

[Bible_Belt]

pushing the relationship forward to the next stage

The next stage being where you move in together and begin building the silent resentment that inevitably destroys your sex life. She's been through all of this more than you, so she knows what is about to happen. That's why she's not in a hurry.

 

[wifehunter]

love is a verb... does not need to be said, but observed.

Next!

 

[AttackFormation]

This guy is a troll.

 

[Yewki]

She... rarely mentions pushing the relationship forward to the next stage etc..

That is not for you to worry about. You're thinking like a girl.

You should consider yourself lucky she hasn't brought it up either, you're free to pursue other girls. In the meantime keep banging her.

By the way. Spoiler alert. She's interested in living with you, you've met each other's families, you spend copious amounts of time together, she's talked about possibly being in a relationship... she loves you. She just hasn't said it yet. She doesn't seem very loving because that's how she is. This is as good as it's gonna get, enjoy it while you can.

 

[parkthebus]

Are you in a sexually exclusive relationship with this woman?