"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mitza

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I know a guy who is High energy, or at least he want to apear as a high energy guy.Every time I meet him he make stupid things, and make fun of others, includind his mother, and others people from his family.He alwasy says about everybody that that pearson is "A loser without money" , but in fact he has no money and he is also in debt.

How do you react when you meet someone like this ?

Today I was close to punch :box: him.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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In my personal experience the most outgoing, center-of attention, class clowns are the most insecure/self-deprivating people you'll ever meet.

I had a friend in high school who would yell at people across the halls, hi-5 the jocks and rag mercilessly on people he didn't like (including teachers....lol) Before I became friends with him I thought he was the bravest kid in the world. But several times later after he made a commotion he confessed to me that he felt so bad about doing that and how everyone hates him now. But he did it ALL THE TIME, and would soon snap out of that and then go back into his class clown self as if he never regreted it, it was so weird. I thought he was just a weirdo but the next year I made another friend who was center-of attention type guy and he would go through the exact same self-depricating cycle......overly extroverted people are insecure in ways manny of us introverts can't understand

Anyway, this guy is completely insecure and feeds of the attention of others. Make him starve to death, it's the worst possible thing you can do to him. Act uneffected by anything he says to you or behind your back and I guaruntee you'll torture him.

EDIT: I don't know if you've ever read "The Game" by Neil Strauss but Mystery in that book is a perfect example of what I'm talking about.
 

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why would YOU punch him? don't touch him unless he says something about you. if he talks trash about his friends and family, hey, let THEM take care of it. what business is it of yours?

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