Someone I want just broke up, how to go for the kill?

[randomshinichi]

Well, a girl whom I know (and I think I may have a chance with) just broke up. And I want a go at her despite the obvious dangers, beause I think she's a great girl.

How should I go about this? I cannot meet her until October, but I can message her. I think I should give it time (few weeks?) but not wait until October to contact her. What do you guys think?

 

[SolidGold]

What kind of relationship do you want to have with this girl?

 

[randomshinichi]

The right kind, LTR type. High risk for me I know, but the payoff should be more than worth it.

 

[SolidGold]

well, if she just broke up, I don't think that she wants to enter a relationship right away. So if you don't want to enter the friendzone or to be the rebound guy. I think it's better for you to be patience and wait. Meanwhile, just talk to her like a regular friend, no pressure

 

[randomshinichi]

Cool, thanks man. A dependable female relative told me the same thing!

 

[Desdinova]

Meanwhile, just talk to her like a regular friend, no pressure

WTF???

To get a girl for ANY type of relationship, you need to get her into bed as quickly as possible. If you're not fvcking her by the 4th date, you're just going to be her friend.

If you have any clue on how to flirt with a woman, you need to be doing it if you haven't already started. I flirt ASAP with ANY woman I'm interested in regardless of her relationship status. This creates one of two scenarios: 1) She dumps her current guy for you because you're more interesting and 2) She considers you as a likely candidate after her relationship has ended.

When you interact with her in person, you NEED to initiate kino. Find *any* excuse to touch her - play with her dangly earrings, put your hand on your shoulder and say "I'll be right back" when you excuse yourself, and whatever else you can think of.

If you don't have the ba11s to pull off any of the above, then you shouldn't be focusing on one particular woman. Instead, you should be going out into the field and practicing this on *every* woman you encounter.

 

[randomshinichi]

I was surprised to find this out too, but many couples in Asia actually spend several years together as friends first before even going out with each other. It is possible actually, and especially long lasting marriages result from that.

When we're together, we can't help but always talk with each other in a playful, flirty way. But if I suddenly start kinoing now, my gut tells me it will scare her away. In any case, I'm sure my intentions should be clear even without kino.

 

[Desdinova]

When we're together, we can't help but always talk with each other in a playful, flirty way. But if I suddenly start kinoing now, my gut tells me it will scare her away. In any case, I'm sure my intentions should be clear even without kino.

It didn't scare her away from fvcking the last guy

 

[randomshinichi]

Duh, she was single when they met. But I've never really kinoed her before, and now that she's single, she's going to notice if I suddenly change my behaviour around her. The point is to not overtly change my behaviour around her, and instead DHV under the radar.

 

[Desdinova]

But I've never really kinoed her before, and now that she's single, she's going to notice if I suddenly change my behaviour around her. The point is to not overtly change my behaviour around her, and instead DHV under the radar.

To get a woman, you need to take risks. If she's attracted to you, she's going to be receptive to your kino. If she's repulsed by you, displaying higher value 'under the radar' isn't going to help your lost cause.

 

[a2chance]

Dont wait that long because someone will pick her up. If she just broke up, she is in EXTREME validation mode and anyone around her is a potential candidate for sex/relationship. Strike while the Iron is hot.