"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Someone actually tried hitting on me today!!!

evolvingnerd

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for the first time, a chick actually tried hitting on me
and a fking hot one at that

now of course, i didn't know it at all. we were waiting in line (i've seen her around before) and some dude was making announcements, and then she turned around and said did he just say that? i said yeah, and she said "yay!". of course i just remained silent (i was midway through reading something) and i just continued on my thing

now, a while later, she saw me talking to one of my social proof friends (another hottie)

what do yuo reckon is the situation here?
after i ignored her, would she think i'm a ****?
or would i have just come across as disinterested? and what was the affect of her seeing me with another girl?

*i just wanna learn this sortta knowledge, so later i can bend a situation to my favour

cheers
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What is happening to this forum lately.
 

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Did she grab your balls??

Oh and your introvert attitude must have been such a turn on for her. When you gave her a one word answer and ignored her, she thought you were so mysterious and strong that she was almost bursting with cream.
 

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Ok, I wouldn't exactly call this hitting on you, but she tried to break the ice and that's often a sign of interest.

The fact that you didn't take the opportunity to speak to her killed your chances in an instant. Simply put, you should have talked to her, and this goes for any woman who asks you a question.
 

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lol
guess i deserved that one eh Sardaukar

but as i said, this was a first for me
hopefully next time i'll realise what's happening, and do something abot it
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She didn't "hit on you."

She gave you an opening because she found you attractive somehow, physically or otherwise. You failed to take advantage of it.

Doesn't matter why to her. You could be a d!ck. You could be just absorbed in what you were doing. You could not like her for some reason. The bottom line is she gave you an opening and you declined it.

Are you happy with that decision? If so, there's nothing more to talk about. :)
 

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As I was getting on the bus yesterday, it was really crowded and some woman bumbed into me and said 'sorry'.

I can't help thinking I could have taken her to bed there and then if only I had followed up on this blatant flirtatious pick-up attempt! She was really interested in me, wasn't she??? I totally blew it.:(
 

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Originally posted by B9
As I was getting on the bus yesterday, it was really crowded and some woman bumbed into me and said 'sorry'.

I can't help thinking I could have taken her to bed there and then if only I had followed up on this blatant flirtatious pick-up attempt! She was really interested in me, wasn't she??? I totally blew it.:(
Man, you should've said "Don't be", grabbed and kissed her with the tongue and all.
 

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So let me get this straight, anytime a girl speaks to me she likes me?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i was thinking wow that sounds cool, going by the title, i wish it would happen to me. But this was not exactly hitting on you, this happens to me twice a week or so.
 

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a c+f reply would have been easy in that situation.

you could have replied with

"yeah, he did say that, and just to let you know, i am flattered, but you're just not my type"

you deliver that properly and you are in.
 

B9

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Originally posted by JasonR
a c+f reply would have been easy in that situation.

you could have replied with

"yeah, he did say that, and just to let you know, i am flattered, but you're just not my type"

you deliver that properly and you are in.
hehe, that might just work actually.
 

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Damnit I missed my opportunity today as well. I was getting lunch and this HB 6.5 that worked there said "do you want fries with that" I panicked and shyly said "no thanks" :( :p
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Fatality
So let me get this straight, anytime a girl speaks to me she likes me?
you - yes. well, they're all members of Mower fan club
 

B9

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Originally posted by Mr. Delicious
Damnit I missed my opportunity today as well. I was getting lunch and this HB 6.5 that worked there said "do you want fries with that" I panicked and shyly said "no thanks" :( :p
that is where you ought to have said 'no but I wanna do you. meet me at the toilets in 5 min.'

you'll get it next time. Snap out of your AFC ways!
 

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hahaha
i enjoyed reading this thread ;)

but in my defence, no girl has ever talked to me out of the blue
usually, if i try to start a convo i get blank stares and few word answers

also, i did have a reason to ignore her...i was scared sh!tless
we were in line to sign in for our scholarship interview, and i was reading over my academic and extra cirricular records, just in case they asked me about it

nevertheless, an opportunity like this will never go to waste on me
the regret is just not worth it
 

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honestly I do think she was breaking the ice with you and you should have responded better. In my post I wasnt meaning to make fun of your situation, I was just playing along with everyone else ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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