"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Somebody talk me out of doing some crazy!

bfl

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Dang i feel like ****!!!! straight up like ****!!

Today i went back to best buy, yes where the spanish girl works, and since the second i went in till the second i went out, my friends told me that she was looking at me, i didnt realize it, i knew she looked when i entered the store though cause i seen her out the corner of my eye.

I was gonna buy i cd so i can go to her register and get her number but i didnt have enough money, i thought i did but when i looked in my wallet i didnt so i didnt buy nothing.
As i was looking thru the cd's, her female co-workers were also lookin' at me it seems like she as told them about me, even my friends told me that they were looking at me as if she has told them about me.
LOL! one thought that she was slick but wasnt, she walked right by me and stood next to me and she acted as if she was fixing the racks , but she just wanted to get a closer view of me, it was so ovbious , but back to the subject.

I went out empty handed, my friends told me to go and talk to her but i said that it would be stupid to go up to her with nothing to buy, so i left with nothing , no number and no date for tonight.

Now straight up i feel like **** and like just locking my self up for life, it was my clear as water chance and i blew it for the second time.
I think that im back to my AFC days.
She was looking at me every second waiting for me to go up to her and i just didnt, (i blame tax part of the problem lol)

But dam im 0/2 now what do i do now?
Its clear that she likes me and she is attracted to me, but i messed up 2 times already, is it a good ideal to go for it a 3rd time or wat? do i let it go? what do i do?

I'm kinda depressed right now no lie.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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awwwwww you poor pimp!


dude dont worry about that...things happen and when i say that, i really mean it. cheer up
 

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The longer you wait, the harder it is going to get. She KNOWS you like her and are just trying to not look at her, playing games. Just go in there next time, buy a CD, ask her if its good. Ask her what CD she thinks you should buy. And ask her what her number is. She is probably one of those girls that likes to get guys interested but has a boyfriend. Try at least then u can find out, and move on with her or without her.
 

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lol sorry bfl for my dumb thread that was encouraged by this reading, but seriously, make eye contact with confidence. Your a guy and guys match perfectly with girls......... and if u dont talk to her ur probably never going to see her around again unless u go to that store alot.
 

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Hope this helps...

I was at best buy earlier today too. I wanted to ask a question about a particular kind of product. It just so happened that a a pretty girl was working in that area. She was leaning against a post with her head down as she was reading some pamphlet. I walked up to her and asked about the product. She told me that they didn't carry the type of thing I was looking for. Anyway, in order to prevent myself like looking like I made up that question just to talk to her, I said "OK, thank you." I then walked off a few steps, turned around, and went back.

Me: "Hey again (smile), Let me introduce myself. I'm static"
Her: I'm HB

Then I talked to her for 3-5 minutes. She didn't recipricate at all. It was more like I was interviewing her, but game was good because it wasn't all questions. I threw in a lot of comments that sparked emotion. She told me she was in a relationship but we could be friends. I said "that's ok, bye."

Bottom line is that it's no big deal. She wasn't mad about it or anything. And even if a girl is , why care?

Just don't be afraid, they can smell it. Also, if you do go back, I would't have the mindset that "What if she thinks I'm stalking her, I better act soft and seek her approval and try to show that this is not the case."
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What the hell man?! You aren't worthy of using this forum until you reread the bible, learn about closing, and ask this girl out.

You want to punish yourself? No more wasting your gd time posting here until you've applied the DJ concepts.

Your next post should be the field report of how you landed this girl's number. Anything else and we will all be very disappointed. Now go get her tomorrow and proves to yourself that you're not an AFC!
 

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im on my way to the store as we i type, ima at a red light, ill update yall lata.
 
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