I went out Monday and Tuesday with my friend, his GF and his GF's best friend. My problem is that I'm shy or whatever and I can't be myself around people that I've only met. Once I get to know them better, I am a completely changed man. I've talked with her, asked questions, she asked me some, but everything was too formal. When we talked in a group I was OK, I kept on making jokes, telling them stories, they all laughed, and all. But once I am alone with her my brain freezes. I can't say anything. I have to beat my mind to figure anything to say and most of the times I sound like an idiot when I talk. It is clear that I am nervous. I try not to make any expectations because I've just met her, but I think that in my subconscious I am afraid not to fail. Do you have any tips on "being yourself"? I was also thinking on asking her out alone one of these days, maybe she'll also lighten up then
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Some tips?
- Thread starter Aka
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