I went out Monday and Tuesday with my friend, his GF and his GF's best friend. My problem is that I'm shy or whatever and I can't be myself around people that I've only met. Once I get to know them better, I am a completely changed man. I've talked with her, asked questions, she asked me some, but everything was too formal. When we talked in a group I was OK, I kept on making jokes, telling them stories, they all laughed, and all. But once I am alone with her my brain freezes. I can't say anything. I have to beat my mind to figure anything to say and most of the times I sound like an idiot when I talk. It is clear that I am nervous. I try not to make any expectations because I've just met her, but I think that in my subconscious I am afraid not to fail. Do you have any tips on "being yourself"? I was also thinking on asking her out alone one of these days, maybe she'll also lighten up then
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Some tips?
- Thread starter Aka
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