"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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-Looking back at my relationship with women, I've noticed that im a total perfectionist. I was always looking for the PERFECT MOMENT, THE PERFECT KISS, the perfect everything! I remember I used to make a big deal of like saying that i think she is beautiful, or things like that... it was like THE BIG EVENT! Now, I'm leaving all those things and just saying things, no matter if its not special. Like, for example, asking her to be my girl out of the blue and for no reason... what do u think of this!?
-When I befriend a girl (I mean I "let's-just-be-friends" her), I feel much better (instead of rushing up with "tactics" to get her into bed and to like skip that phase) I no longer feel worried, I feel things fall in their place at their own pace. I think that could be the key for EVERYTHINNG! That theory has so much sense to me, but I feel nobody has ever mentioned it before, so Im afraid I might be wrong. I think that a girlFRIEND is well, a really GOOD friend! Somebody who u share EVERYTHING! someone with who u do everything (including sex!). Think about it! dont u guys think that the characteristic that makes everything fun, exciting and special is that u and her are just really good friends?
what do u think of this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You know, one of the reasons i dont date Asian guys very often is because they have been brain washed by bollywood movies, and have this notion of how everything needs to be perfec or romantic, or preplanned. Its good to put thought and effort in occassionally, but sometimes you need to step back and look at the bigger picture, and think about all the little pleasures you may have overlooked trying to make the relationship what you want. Be spontaneous, seize the day. Add a bit of ruggedness in your relationship, it spices things up.
 
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Everyones different and has their own style and I agree with you that somethings fall in place you don't need perfect timing but its till a certain point. As for the girlfriend being a good friend I'm gonna have to disagree. One thing you should never do is form an attachment with a girlfriend or even friends. It leads to a path of self destruction when you become Dependant on them due to the attachments. Its possible to love someone without any attachments. A girlfriend can never be a good friend but a good friend can be a girlfriend but never the other way.
 
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