"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Some dinner gathering problem

MrGold

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Ex gf's gonna be there and we havnt spoken in a few weeks since a huge argument. How do i act?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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wjh

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Is it at a house? Restaurant? Any new boyfriends or girlfriends?

How does she generally act?

If she's a firecracker I would try to avoid contact with her altogether - but if it's an obligatory event, such as a family Thanksgiving, you have to just ignore her. Think stoicism.

Obviously don't go calling her on past b.s. if there is no need to or if she's not starting anything.
 

MrGold

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At a restaurant with a bunch of 'her' friends... Hmm i think ill try the neutral 'hey how u doin?' then move away and make an earl exit. Just wanna show my face really. Thanks anyway.
 
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