"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Some basic help needed

mrblue

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I recently broke up with my GF of 4 years and really feel out of the singles scene . I used to frequent this board in college and know that you guys will be able to help. So here the deal, last night I was out at a friend's party in NYC (I live in NYC as well) and chatting with a buddy of mine. Then this girl that is a friend of a friend comes to chat with my buddy. My buddy introduces us but she gets pulled away by someone else. She was cute, prob like a 7 in my book. Anyways, a few minutes later she comes back and reintroduce herself to me. We chat for like 5 or 6 minutes, I learn that she just moved to NYC a few months ago, the bar is crowded and there is good kino. Then she says she has to go and find her friend, before she leaves she asks for my number. I take my phone out and ask for her's and get them. I then call her just so that she now has my number. So far so good.

About an hour later, I am standing near the dance floor and she walks by, we grind for like a song before she leaves. She is then just hanging out with some friends for the next hour. I wonder around the bar and dance with various girls, my friend wants me to meet this one chick so I start talking to this other girl. Just as I am talking to this new girl, the girl I got the number from earlier comes by and says bye to me.

Sorry for the long msg, I've been out of the game for so long I wanted to give all the details.

So my question is since she has my number, should I wait for her to call? Or should I call her? We met on Sat night, if I should call her, when should I call her?

Also, for those guys living in NYC, what would be a good first date these days (I am in my late 20s, I think she is in her mid 20s). Would dinner and then drinks be too much? Should I not book a date for a weekend evening, maybe a dinner on a Wed night?

Thanks for all your help.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BCOMusic

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Do what you truly want to do without thinking about the outcome,

Nobody is perfect, if you want her, go get her.
 

Bible_Belt

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Call her, but wait maybe a couple days. If she calls you before then, that's a great ioi, but expect to be the one who leads.
 

JDA70

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Wait like 2 or 3 days so you don't come accross
as a desperate needy guy.

Stay away from the traditional dates like dinner and a movie,
drinks and flowers. That stuff is for later on when and if
things work out and you are going steady.

Take here to play pool, go bowling, go shopping,
go to the park, stuff like that.

Work on attraction first, then move on to rapport and comfort.
 
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