Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Some basic help needed

mrblue

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I recently broke up with my GF of 4 years and really feel out of the singles scene . I used to frequent this board in college and know that you guys will be able to help. So here the deal, last night I was out at a friend's party in NYC (I live in NYC as well) and chatting with a buddy of mine. Then this girl that is a friend of a friend comes to chat with my buddy. My buddy introduces us but she gets pulled away by someone else. She was cute, prob like a 7 in my book. Anyways, a few minutes later she comes back and reintroduce herself to me. We chat for like 5 or 6 minutes, I learn that she just moved to NYC a few months ago, the bar is crowded and there is good kino. Then she says she has to go and find her friend, before she leaves she asks for my number. I take my phone out and ask for her's and get them. I then call her just so that she now has my number. So far so good.

About an hour later, I am standing near the dance floor and she walks by, we grind for like a song before she leaves. She is then just hanging out with some friends for the next hour. I wonder around the bar and dance with various girls, my friend wants me to meet this one chick so I start talking to this other girl. Just as I am talking to this new girl, the girl I got the number from earlier comes by and says bye to me.

Sorry for the long msg, I've been out of the game for so long I wanted to give all the details.

So my question is since she has my number, should I wait for her to call? Or should I call her? We met on Sat night, if I should call her, when should I call her?

Also, for those guys living in NYC, what would be a good first date these days (I am in my late 20s, I think she is in her mid 20s). Would dinner and then drinks be too much? Should I not book a date for a weekend evening, maybe a dinner on a Wed night?

Thanks for all your help.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BCOMusic

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Do what you truly want to do without thinking about the outcome,

Nobody is perfect, if you want her, go get her.
 

Bible_Belt

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Call her, but wait maybe a couple days. If she calls you before then, that's a great ioi, but expect to be the one who leads.
 

JDA70

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Wait like 2 or 3 days so you don't come accross
as a desperate needy guy.

Stay away from the traditional dates like dinner and a movie,
drinks and flowers. That stuff is for later on when and if
things work out and you are going steady.

Take here to play pool, go bowling, go shopping,
go to the park, stuff like that.

Work on attraction first, then move on to rapport and comfort.
 
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