"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MackToBe

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Iv'e been going to this bar quite a few times recently and seen this HOT babe working behind the bar, she probably gets hit on by a lot of guys all the time so any advice on how I can come across to her that Im not like the other average guys. Not sure how to start a good conversation with her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If she is a bartender or waitress, wait for her to come to you for an order then say "i need a v i r g i n m a r y" then wink.

you'll look like all the other guys hitting on her, but a bit more charming.

then u switch the game.

once u are given your drink from her, just say "thanks, your a darling"

turn away and don't talk to her all night.

repeat this for 3 days straight with a bit of variation.

she'll be interested in u in no time.

and note: you better be a interesting person in real life here son
 

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find a different girl.

hot bar tender is like a movie star.

OR meet her somewhere she's not a bar tender. and work it from there.
 

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Lots of HB in a bar are ball buster. And most of the time and being ****y works well than just the plain small convo.

It doesn't matter how you approach her, just walk up to her, make a compliment or ask a question or say something about the place. Introduce yourself, and close with her number.
 

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last few times I went to the same club, there's a really cute bartender that's been flirting with me.

the thing that I guess set me apart the first time I went there, and made her remember me is that I was playful with her.

I honestly don't think we'll ever hook up, it's just mindless flirting, but I probably could...but that's another story.

Anyway, first time, when I was buying a drink, and she was like "that's blah dollars." and I held out my money, and as she was about to take it from my hand, I moved it away quickly ...she fell for it, and I was like "my 5yr old cousin doesn't even fall for that stuff anymore." From that point on we just tease each other...do playful stuff like that with beautiful women and you will quickly set yourself apart from the rest.

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edit: also, though, the best way to meet a hot bartender is outside of the club/bar. you'll have better odds then. I know one that I've met outside of the bar...that if I'd met her at the bar I wouldn't have nearly been as close to.

err: just realized quest said the same thing :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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