"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do you know if you trust someone?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do you know if you trust someone?
They are who they are. When you accept it's bad for you, get them out of your circle and out of your ear. You can't change who they are.

To find out if someone can be trusted,allow them to be in situations where you have to trust them. And with complete clarity, observe if they are trust worthy or you have to make excuses for them.
 

Alvafe

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How do you know if you trust someone?
you don't, simple put you don't trust anyone, you can test then to see if they are somewhat trustworthy in some degree, but take note people aren't, some somethings can be trusted,

best thing to have in mind is no one do things if it don't bring some benefit to then
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've dealt with it my whole life. My older brother who's gay cares for noone but himself and doesn't hold himself accountable for anything he does or says.

He's been coddled his whole life - from my parents, to his teachers and to society. Literally everyone gives him a pass because he's gay, which only further reinforces his total lack of empathy for others and a sense of personal responsibility for his own life.

When people call him out on his behavior, he plays the victim card and says people are bullying him for being gay, even though he's the one who starts arguments and drama - he relishes in passive aggressive behavior because it gives him some deluded sense of power. But it's an infantile power, because people are just giving him a pass out of pity, not because they respect him, but he doesn't understand that. He lives in some sort of warped deluded fantasy world in which he thinks he's sexy and desired and that everyone thinks he's charming......

But he's almost 40 now, and his fantasy world is starting to evaporate as age sets in. For those whom are unaware, the gay community is incredibly biggoted against older gay men. Even my brother used to make fun of older gay men who'd frequent the clubs trying to pick up younger gay men.....it never once crossed his mind that some day he too might be one of those creepy dudes.....

And now he's lashing out at the world even more because he can't cope with the harsh reality that he's near 40, unemployed with no career prospects, he's getting fat, his looks have faded, and no gay sugar daddy will subsidize his irresponsible lifestyle..... He always held onto this weird cope that he'd catch a gay sugar daddy.... In his 20s he used to hang around the hollywood scene hoping that some gay movie producer would take him under his wing.....LOL.....

In some weird way, growing up with a deluded gay brother taught me a lot about the female mind and helped me learn to spot red flags in advance. I've been able to avoid toxic relationships because I can recognize very early on the subtle signs of narcissism, self-delusion, passive aggressiveness and entitlement.


EDIT:: to address your question: the way to deal with it is to simply cut them out of your life. You don't need to hold onto people who will just drag you down. Anybody who shows signs of being an attention wh0re or seeking validation or passive aggressiveness should be immediately disregarded.

It doesn't matter if they're family or friends, cut them out of your life and move on, show no remorse.

Being an attention wh0re and seeking validation are the first tell-tale signs of narcissism.... just put them on the ignore....
 
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I've dealt with it my whole life. My older brother who's gay cares for noone but himself and doesn't hold himself accountable for anything he does or says.

He's been coddled his whole life - from my parents, to his teachers and to society. Literally everyone gives him a pass because he's gay, which only further reinforces his total lack of empathy for others and a sense of personal responsibility for his own life.

When people call him out on his behavior, he plays the victim card and says people are bullying him for being gay, even though he's the one who starts arguments and drama - he relishes in passive aggressive behavior because it gives him some deluded sense of power. But it's an infantile power, because people are just giving him a pass out of pity, not because they respect him, but he doesn't understand that. He lives in some sort of warped deluded fantasy world in which he thinks he's sexy and desired and that everyone thinks he's charming......

But he's almost 40 now, and his fantasy world is starting to evaporate as age sets in. For those whom are unaware, the gay community is incredibly biggoted against older gay men. Even my brother used to make fun of older gay men who'd frequent the clubs trying to pick up younger gay men.....it never once crossed his mind that some day he too might be one of those creepy dudes.....

And now he's lashing out at the world even more because he can't cope with the harsh reality that he's near 40, unemployed with no career prospects, he's getting fat, his looks have faded, and no gay sugar daddy will subsidize his irresponsible lifestyle..... He always held onto this weird cope that he'd catch a gay sugar daddy.... In his 20s he used to hang around the hollywood scene hoping that some gay movie producer would take him under his wing.....LOL.....

In some weird way, growing up with a deluded gay brother taught me a lot about the female mind and helped me learn to spot red flags in advance. I've been able to avoid toxic relationships because I can recognize very early on the subtle signs of narcissism, self-delusion, passive aggressiveness and entitlement.


EDIT:: to address your question: the way to deal with it is to simply cut them out of your life. You don't need to hold onto people who will just drag you down. Anybody who shows signs of being an attention wh0re or seeking validation or passive aggressiveness should be immediately disregarded.

It doesn't matter if they're family or friends, cut them out of your life and move on, show no remorse.

Being an attention wh0re and seeking validation are the first tell-tale signs of narcissism.... just put them on the ignore....
Very good.
 

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Dont get suck in into their games makes you invulnerable, just leave it alone.. You dont treat garbage like any other food you had in fridge, you put it in trash can.
 

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I've dealt with it my whole life. My older brother who's gay cares for noone but himself and doesn't hold himself accountable for anything he does or says.

He's been coddled his whole life - from my parents, to his teachers and to society. Literally everyone gives him a pass because he's gay, which only further reinforces his total lack of empathy for others and a sense of personal responsibility for his own life.

When people call him out on his behavior, he plays the victim card and says people are bullying him for being gay, even though he's the one who starts arguments and drama - he relishes in passive aggressive behavior because it gives him some deluded sense of power. But it's an infantile power, because people are just giving him a pass out of pity, not because they respect him, but he doesn't understand that. He lives in some sort of warped deluded fantasy world in which he thinks he's sexy and desired and that everyone thinks he's charming......

But he's almost 40 now, and his fantasy world is starting to evaporate as age sets in. For those whom are unaware, the gay community is incredibly biggoted against older gay men. Even my brother used to make fun of older gay men who'd frequent the clubs trying to pick up younger gay men.....it never once crossed his mind that some day he too might be one of those creepy dudes.....

And now he's lashing out at the world even more because he can't cope with the harsh reality that he's near 40, unemployed with no career prospects, he's getting fat, his looks have faded, and no gay sugar daddy will subsidize his irresponsible lifestyle..... He always held onto this weird cope that he'd catch a gay sugar daddy.... In his 20s he used to hang around the hollywood scene hoping that some gay movie producer would take him under his wing.....LOL.....

In some weird way, growing up with a deluded gay brother taught me a lot about the female mind and helped me learn to spot red flags in advance. I've been able to avoid toxic relationships because I can recognize very early on the subtle signs of narcissism, self-delusion, passive aggressiveness and entitlement.


EDIT:: to address your question: the way to deal with it is to simply cut them out of your life. You don't need to hold onto people who will just drag you down. Anybody who shows signs of being an attention wh0re or seeking validation or passive aggressiveness should be immediately disregarded.

It doesn't matter if they're family or friends, cut them out of your life and move on, show no remorse.

Being an attention wh0re and seeking validation are the first tell-tale signs of narcissism.... just put them on the ignore....

sounds not appeal to me, never been depend on my family, spent long time on street and working since young age. Then I'm not a sociopath
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sounds not appeal to me, never been depend on my family, spent long time on street and working since young age. Then I'm not a sociopath
You know people. And you take care of yourself. Thats not a sociapath unless you prey on people.
 
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