"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Social Skills

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Do yuo think its ever possible to get even a date with really bad social skills? i mean so bad its unbeliavable????????? If so how????

Thankyou
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ManOMan

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Sir,

you are asking for a $90,000 salary without having the experience for the job.

Your IMMEDIATE goal should be to Work on your social skills, not getting a date.

Read some of the tips on building rapport and social skills, when you let loose, the dates will come. You cant have what you want without working from the bottom up.
 

Porky

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Why would you want a date? If your social skills are as bad as you say they are (and I think this is just a joke account and that you're full of it) a date with any girl would only result in you sitting there quietly and letting the conversation die. Awkward, awkward, awkward.
 

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dude, make new friends. Thats the easiest way to get social skills. Girl friends, guy friends, fat friends, skinny friends, hot friends, funny friends. Try to get as many friends as possible, but first try talking to the friends you have now and learn the art of conversation. Once, you pick that up, its pretty easy to carry on a convo with just about anyone. And if your conversation skills arent too great and you decide to begin dating, make sure to do action dates and dont do dates where you are forced to talk until you are comfortable with the person
 

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Can you give an example of extremely bad social skills? People with confidence issues often undervalue their skills.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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to GigaloDJ yes i had one and it went fine everyone else, i have LOTS of friends its just when i first see a woman i cant say anything appart from asking her out which never works. If i do get a date then im fine, well i can hold a conversation. Apart from that im screwed. Do you know of any way i can get a date without having a convosation for ages .
 

Supero Masculus

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Give it up dude, social skills are a must. If you are that desperate then go for a UG or big bertha at the donut shop cause w/out social skillz thats all your gonna get.
 

chimps_rule

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social skills beats looks and muscles hands down.
 

popcorn

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Yes i agree chimps, in fact its blatently obvious. I am ****ed.
 

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oh and i also have no confidence whatso ever, well not with women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ice Cold

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Cool. I have a solution for you.

Lay down and die.
















Or reframe. Instead of saying "I have no social skills" ask yourself.

"How can I get social skills today?"
 

Genghis Juan

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popcorn,

you have to start from square one!! read the damn bible, then do the bootcamp.

you have to learn how to crawl before you can walk...
 
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