"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Social Skills

popcorn

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Do yuo think its ever possible to get even a date with really bad social skills? i mean so bad its unbeliavable????????? If so how????

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ManOMan

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Sir,

you are asking for a $90,000 salary without having the experience for the job.

Your IMMEDIATE goal should be to Work on your social skills, not getting a date.

Read some of the tips on building rapport and social skills, when you let loose, the dates will come. You cant have what you want without working from the bottom up.
 

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Why would you want a date? If your social skills are as bad as you say they are (and I think this is just a joke account and that you're full of it) a date with any girl would only result in you sitting there quietly and letting the conversation die. Awkward, awkward, awkward.
 

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dude, make new friends. Thats the easiest way to get social skills. Girl friends, guy friends, fat friends, skinny friends, hot friends, funny friends. Try to get as many friends as possible, but first try talking to the friends you have now and learn the art of conversation. Once, you pick that up, its pretty easy to carry on a convo with just about anyone. And if your conversation skills arent too great and you decide to begin dating, make sure to do action dates and dont do dates where you are forced to talk until you are comfortable with the person
 

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Can you give an example of extremely bad social skills? People with confidence issues often undervalue their skills.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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to GigaloDJ yes i had one and it went fine everyone else, i have LOTS of friends its just when i first see a woman i cant say anything appart from asking her out which never works. If i do get a date then im fine, well i can hold a conversation. Apart from that im screwed. Do you know of any way i can get a date without having a convosation for ages .
 

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Give it up dude, social skills are a must. If you are that desperate then go for a UG or big bertha at the donut shop cause w/out social skillz thats all your gonna get.
 

chimps_rule

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social skills beats looks and muscles hands down.
 

popcorn

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Yes i agree chimps, in fact its blatently obvious. I am ****ed.
 

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oh and i also have no confidence whatso ever, well not with women.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Ice Cold

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Cool. I have a solution for you.

Lay down and die.
















Or reframe. Instead of saying "I have no social skills" ask yourself.

"How can I get social skills today?"
 

Genghis Juan

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popcorn,

you have to start from square one!! read the damn bible, then do the bootcamp.

you have to learn how to crawl before you can walk...
 
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