"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Social Skills...Getting My Voice Heard in a Group

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This has nothing to do with picking up girls, and actually has to do with social skills in general.

I have to do projects in groups for 2 of my classes. In one class, I'm having trouble getting my voice heard. It's not that I don't talk or have any problem with talking. It seems, rather, that the other group members blatantly ignore me for some reason.

I'm very active in class discussions, I'm outspoken and I participate a lot in the class...so much that today the professor politely told me to shut up so others could also have a chance to participate.

It's not that I just like to hear my own voice or I talk nonsense. Nah, I listen attentively and I respond accordingly. In discussions, participating helps me to learn better. In the our small groups (6 members total), I find it hard to even get the opportunity to say anything. There are only 2-3 group members who do most of the talking. It's actually mostly one guy who directs his talking mostly to one girl and another guy in the group.

Whenever I try to say something they cut me off and change the topic or they almost pretend like I didn't say anything? It's weird because I have no problems in my other groups or in social settings in general. In the same class, I've flirted with girls and exchanged some smiles with others. So I'm not socially awkward. In fact, I do well interacting with most everyone in the class besides my own group.

I haven't really confronted them directly about this, but I think I'm getting a little frustrated and the fact that I'm making a thread to ask for any input/advice shows that I care. I feel a bit disrespected to be honest.

I feel isolated. Moreover, at times the one guy and girl who talk the most will talk really quietly or even away from me almost as if to keep me out of things. Like wtf.

I don't have an ego, and I'm not insecure, I'm just puzzled by why this could be. I feel like I work really hard to make our group succeed (and I have proved my abilities by putting together assignments, etc.) yet they seem to have a nonchalant attitude for the class and don't really recognize me as a whole. What's even worse is when I missed one group meeting they were all upset and everything, but when other members missed meetings or have repeatedly been late they didn't as much as blink.

My question is, should I call them out on their bullsh*t? Like what's seriously up? Or is that a weak thing, and I'm over-analyzing? I feel the best idea so far is to get my points across to them via email, because that way I can be sure they will listen. But at the same time, I would rather talk face-to-face, but unfortunately that's not working. Overall, I feel like I'm treated really badly, but it may just be that I'm seeing everything from the wrong perspective?

Do you guys have any tips on how I can make myself more heard?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My gut feeling is that they're perceiving you as an attention wh*re.

When people do things like this , it's their way of getting back at you for trying to get their attention so much.
They withhold the very thing you desire most, their attention and validation.
My feeling is that you are coming off as needing attention and wanting too desperately to be heard.
As such, they're going the "Boy Who Cried Wolf" on you , and now you're reaping the rewards of trying to hard to "stand out" and get attention/validation.

Am I right?
 

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Interceptor said:
My gut feeling is that they're perceiving you as an attention wh*re.

When people do things like this , it's their way of getting back at you for trying to get their attention so much.
They withhold the very thing you desire most, their attention and validation.
My feeling is that you are coming off as needing attention and wanting too desperately to be heard.
As such, they're going the "Boy Who Cried Wolf" on you , and now you're reaping the rewards of trying to hard to "stand out" and get attention/validation.

Am I right?
You make a decent point, but what's sucks is that it's mostly their perception.

Fvck it, I'm just going to deal with it. And yeah, it could just be that they don't like my ideas, true.
 

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It's not a big deal if somebody misses a couple sentences, but if they don't listen to a word, your doing something wrong.

I know a guy though, that when people start having a conversation without him he will do anything to be heard, usually just scream gibberish at the top of his lungs like a retard until someone turns in his direction. Don't be that guy.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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