"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Social Proofing at this week's Party

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Tomorrow I'll be hitting up a good friend's party, and I've invited two girls to join me, as long as a good buddy of mine.

The one girl I'm taking (first date w/ her), we're going to meet up before hand and go out a couple hours before, then stop by a little at the party together.

Figure I'll apply some kino in that time before, make her feel totally comfortable w/ me, and then just have a lot of fun at the party..drink a little wine (NOT get sh*faced), and just talk some more together. Be totally social around her..invite her to numerous people I know...show her that I'm pretty much just a really exciting guy.

Of course, there's also another girl who I invited who I think is kinda into me. We've been meaning to go out for a long time together (she's a LONG time school friend..elementary school!), never did, and my schedule is literally so f*cking booked that I decided to invite her so we could at least talk at the party together.

I figure this will be a perfect way to establich good social proofing there, but am wondering about some tips on making the date work (the one I'm really interested in...the first one I mentioned).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You should "set up the grounds" on the first part of that night and "make the kill" @ the party,she will feel alot more comfortable there.Try to rise her interest when you meet and during the first date,then at the party ignore her and give more attention to the other girl,then you make your move on the one you dated before.Make sure you know ALOT of people in that party and the house too (if its a house party),the idea basically is if you're comfortable in that environment you will project this to her,and she will be comfortable with you and the environment also.
 

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GloriouslyInsane said:
You should "set up the grounds" on the first part of that night and "make the kill" @ the party,she will feel alot more comfortable there.Try to rise her interest when you meet and during the first date,then at the party ignore her and give more attention to the other girl,then you make your move on the one you dated before.Make sure you know ALOT of people in that party and the house too (if its a house party),the idea basically is if you're comfortable in that environment you will project this to her,and she will be comfortable with you and the environment also.
Sounds like a plan. I'm pretty comfortable and out-going in parties and gatherings, so it should go well.
 

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Make sure that you introduce the girl around and you say hello/handshake to as many people you can,friendly hug the girls :D.And if whoever asks you or the girl "how do you met workerouter/thegirl" don't say she's my date/my friend. My responses are often "She's my partner in crime/sidecick against crime etc"
 

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GloriouslyInsane said:
Make sure that you introduce the girl around and you say hello/handshake to as many people you can,friendly hug the girls :D.And if whoever asks you or the girl "how do you met workerouter/thegirl" don't say she's my date/my friend. My responses are often "She's my partner in crime/sidecick against crime etc"
Definately
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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