What is your guys experience when going to partys w/out any? here is a situation like in a week i'm going to a party where only know 2 people. Most of them will be at least 3 years older then me but i could care less about that but heres the problem my bros place is small its a 2 bedrooms condo and thiers going to be like 10-15 people their. what kind of approach do you guys take when you know nobody?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Social proof important or no?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Docs
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The next time I'm at a party I don't know, I'm dropping this line.
Hey! How's it going?
blah.
What you doing here?
blah, you?
Well, everytime I come to a party, I have to meet everyone. Where's yoru friends.
And off I go. I'm running that. I might even do that later on in a club....*gets ideas*..
Hey! How's it going?
blah.
What you doing here?
blah, you?
Well, everytime I come to a party, I have to meet everyone. Where's yoru friends.
And off I go. I'm running that. I might even do that later on in a club....*gets ideas*..
Social proof isn't important to me because I live in a large City and I rarely ever see the same people twice when I am out on the town, it is much more important if you live in a small town where you see the same people everywhere you go.
Social proof makes things easier.
Say you're going to buy a car. You're in doubt which car you get. Then a friend comes and say X car is amazing! Does not break easily, has great gas mileage and awesome engine power.
You may not hurry to buy the car X, but you surely see it in a new perspective.
Say you're going to buy a car. You're in doubt which car you get. Then a friend comes and say X car is amazing! Does not break easily, has great gas mileage and awesome engine power.
You may not hurry to buy the car X, but you surely see it in a new perspective.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Don't depend on people to make you go into state. Your best bet is to actually go by yourself and start going to parties by yourself whenever you get the chance. You will develop such a stronger inner game that when you do go out with friends it is way easier.
I used to be with friends 24/7, but after awhile I actually went out alone and realized I'm more in state when I'm alone than if I was with my friends. I used to use friends as a serious crutch and I was conscious of it too.
I used to be with friends 24/7, but after awhile I actually went out alone and realized I'm more in state when I'm alone than if I was with my friends. I used to use friends as a serious crutch and I was conscious of it too.
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You are right.:yes:Snow Plowman said:
Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
I've never really gone to a club by myself...but I will on many occassions just go out onto the dance floor and jam. I'm a dancer and just dancing is good drill work for me...gets your nervous system reacting well to the beat, etc. Plus its good cardio!B-Real said:
I find when I do this... I pretty much always have girls approaching me. One time (I was fairly inebriated on a number pharmacoactive compounds) I had a cougar go up my shirt...right in front of her bf/husband from the back....yes she used the "freak from behind" technique on me...amateurs!
Later that evening I remember high fiving the dude! haha! Same night... I had HB8.0 come up to me and ask me to dance... I find the girls that have the confidence to initiate contact w/ me on the dance floor are generally HOT. Atleast HB7. Even last night, I was out w/ a friend, just wingmanning for him, and I had ample interest from a couple of HB7.5s...He didn't give the "execute" order, so we didn't attempt a pick up, but there was ample eye contact, occassional touching and good proximity. Later that night I had a HB7.0 grab my ass twice in rapid succession, before I called her on it. I have a gf so I wasn't interested.So...I guess that's a tip for you guys...just go onto the floor and jam by urself...let the chicas come to YOU!