"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Social Proof and the Mature Man

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Ok here is the deal, I'm 38 and haved moved to a new city where I don't know anyone. I am a successful professional that works in an environment that doesn't put me in the path of date-able women...or single guys to hang out with.
How can I increase my social proof when I am (for now) an outsider? What is a good way to meet fellow single guys to hang out with? My age bracket seems to be filled with married people.

BTW I am not a "sporty" guy. I am in pretty good shape and would rate myself a 6 or 7. I am also 5'4. I make good money, drive a nice car, and dress well. :woo:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've met some cool dudes at the gym, but if ur not into that, i dunno.. go into some local chat rooms or join toastmasters or something.:cheer:
 
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Our city has sports leagues - recreational. The league attracts people who are already working and are mostly single. You should look into joining them if your city has them. The only thing that your job should bring out is NOT that it is boring (when you talk to women about it).

Don't limit yourself to sports - some of those girls are just big (bulky but not fat). And always look for something new to do. You know when you have that voice that says "no way i'm not doing that." Be adventurous and do it. You'll have a lot of fun and you'll shine!
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dance classes are good too. There are usually more women than men.
 
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Originally posted by mcqueen207
Ok here is the deal, I'm 38 and haved moved to a new city where I don't know anyone. I am a successful professional that works in an environment that doesn't put me in the path of date-able women...or single guys to hang out with.
How can I increase my social proof when I am (for now) an outsider? What is a good way to meet fellow single guys to hang out with? My age bracket seems to be filled with married people.

BTW I am not a "sporty" guy. I am in pretty good shape and would rate myself a 6 or 7. I am also 5'4. I make good money, drive a nice car, and dress well. :woo:
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Go to Coquitlam Centre and pick up some ladies there if you're comfortable. Women love to shop... I love to pick-up women... and that mall is a gold mine..
 
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