Social Circle Seduction

[nicksaiz65]

I’ve found that a lot of the dating advice for men/in the Manosphere focuses on the cold approach. That is totally fine! And by focusing on that, I’ve been able to get several lays.

But one of the things that drove me to the community in the first place was failing at some social circle situations.

To be specific: there is a situation that keeps coming up for me. I’ll meet a girl who I have mutual friends with, who I will see very very sporadically. She’s always super attractive, and I want to pound her into the mattress.

Whenever I’ve tried being more direct with them and showing more intent like a lot of PUAs say. Especially over text. Saying something like, “I want to see you again.” And then try to get them on a date, it has always backfired on me. I get left on read.

It’s a bit hard to tell: is this happening because I’m not fvckable enough to these girls? Or is it simply my strategy that is flawed? Essentially I don’t know how to express myself, or bang them.

So basically, I’m completely lost and clueless when it comes to stuff like this. I’m clueless on how to successfully fvck the mess out of them.

Is the only option to wait for some sort of choosing signal? I don’t know how that would work out when these girls that I want to bang are basically at the fringe of my social circle, and I don’t see them that much at all.

But that also makes me think. There have been girls in my classes previously who I thought at the time didn’t like me but it turns out later that they had a huge crush on me. In hindsight, I definitely could’ve banged them. But, at the time I didn’t notice or get any choosing signal.

So SS fam! I’m completely lost and clueless on this! I’d really appreciate your sage wisdom on how I should handle these types situations so I can improve my life further.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Is the only option to wait for some sort of choosing signal? I don’t know how that would work out when these girls that I want to bang are basically at the fringe of my social circle, and I don’t see them that much at all.

Yes that's right, social Circle game is an entirely ballpark. You can't use the same cold approach strategies and expect them to work. You need to be more indirect to gauge her interest, if the reception is good you escalate

 

[nicksaiz65]

Yes that's right, social Circle game is an entirely ballpark. You can't use the same cold approach strategies and expect them to work. You need to be more indirect to gauge her interest, if the reception is good you escalate

Definitely, I thought so. Could you elaborate a little bit more on being indirect and gauging her interest within the social circle?

Just being a cool social guy, watching for IOIs, and escalate from there?

I also hear that if you don’t get any IOIs, then the only solution is to improve yourself until you start getting them.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Remember Pook. When they ask if you are gay its actually a good thing.

Ye, I suppose that is sort of the light female of "do you have a gf?" question, so it is an IOI in itself to check if you're available. Girls are usually not that direct as we guys are which directly asking if they have a BF.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Social Circles are a group of people you can have fun with, if you are attempting to pick up women WITHIN your social circle you clearly do not understand the game end of it; as a man, you are under obligation to submit to the advances of the most attractive woman in your social circle but often her friends will be feeling you out first, women are much more communal than competitive and will typically get to the bottom of **** if either woman is not pushing boundaries.

So the whole idea is for you to bring a woman to them and they validate her, make her feel welcome within THEIR circle, which is a sub circle of your social circle... What this means is ultimately these women have to like you and enjoy your company, which means your probably buying or finding men to buy for them