Chimera
Don Juan
Exactly what is it and how does one overcome it? Discuss
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Social awkwardness
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pie in the Sky
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Just get out there and socialize with people. The awkwardness is in your head. The more people you interact with the easier it will become until you won't even think about it.
Social akwardness=not having social skills. It means saying the wrong things, interpreting relationships and friendships the wrong way, basically meaning someon who doesn't have any experience in this area. You overcoming this by socializing and making friends.
Chimera
Don Juan
Here's the situation: I've always had friends and socialize all the time, yet consistently get called "socially awkward" or "weird" by all different sorts of people. Recently, a female friend of mine said that it's my social awkwardness that seems to get in the way of me having sex or any sort of relationship.
Try accepting the fact that maybe you are weird and socially awkward and be OK with it, then go from there. "Yeah I'm weird, no biggie, deal with it beotch"
But you know what's really weird? Frogs. They're freakin green for cryin out loud. And they hop around and eat bugs n sh*t. Super weird.
But you know what's really weird? Frogs. They're freakin green for cryin out loud. And they hop around and eat bugs n sh*t. Super weird.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The problem may be deeper and it's not as easy as just going out there and meeting people. You have to ask yourself if you like yourself. I'm not talking about are you your ideal self, because nobody is and you obviously have one flaw that is bothering you. But do you like who you are unconditionally.Chimera said:Here's the situation: I've always had friends and socialize all the time, yet consistently get called "socially awkward" or "weird" by all different sorts of people. Recently, a female friend of mine said that it's my social awkwardness that seems to get in the way of me having sex or any sort of relationship.
this.Max Power said:The problem may be deeper and it's not as easy as just going out there and meeting people. You have to ask yourself if you like yourself. I'm not talking about are you your ideal self, because nobody is and you obviously have one flaw that is bothering you. But do you like who you are unconditionally.
it's in your head. It's not anyone else. it's you. you've got to be ok with yourself before you can be ok with anyone else
Disagree. Awkwardness comes from being too much in your head. A person with little social skills can still be confident as long as they are ok with who they are. If your insecure, you'll be in your head and self-conscious. This is what causes awkwardness.ajax11 said:Social akwardness=not having social skills. It means saying the wrong things, interpreting relationships and friendships the wrong way, basically meaning someon who doesn't have any experience in this area. You overcoming this by socializing and making friends.