Chimera
Don Juan
Exactly what is it and how does one overcome it? Discuss
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Social awkwardness
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pie in the Sky
Don Juan
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Just get out there and socialize with people. The awkwardness is in your head. The more people you interact with the easier it will become until you won't even think about it.
Social akwardness=not having social skills. It means saying the wrong things, interpreting relationships and friendships the wrong way, basically meaning someon who doesn't have any experience in this area. You overcoming this by socializing and making friends.
Chimera
Don Juan
Here's the situation: I've always had friends and socialize all the time, yet consistently get called "socially awkward" or "weird" by all different sorts of people. Recently, a female friend of mine said that it's my social awkwardness that seems to get in the way of me having sex or any sort of relationship.
Try accepting the fact that maybe you are weird and socially awkward and be OK with it, then go from there. "Yeah I'm weird, no biggie, deal with it beotch"
But you know what's really weird? Frogs. They're freakin green for cryin out loud. And they hop around and eat bugs n sh*t. Super weird.
But you know what's really weird? Frogs. They're freakin green for cryin out loud. And they hop around and eat bugs n sh*t. Super weird.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The problem may be deeper and it's not as easy as just going out there and meeting people. You have to ask yourself if you like yourself. I'm not talking about are you your ideal self, because nobody is and you obviously have one flaw that is bothering you. But do you like who you are unconditionally.Chimera said:Here's the situation: I've always had friends and socialize all the time, yet consistently get called "socially awkward" or "weird" by all different sorts of people. Recently, a female friend of mine said that it's my social awkwardness that seems to get in the way of me having sex or any sort of relationship.
this.Max Power said:The problem may be deeper and it's not as easy as just going out there and meeting people. You have to ask yourself if you like yourself. I'm not talking about are you your ideal self, because nobody is and you obviously have one flaw that is bothering you. But do you like who you are unconditionally.
it's in your head. It's not anyone else. it's you. you've got to be ok with yourself before you can be ok with anyone else
Disagree. Awkwardness comes from being too much in your head. A person with little social skills can still be confident as long as they are ok with who they are. If your insecure, you'll be in your head and self-conscious. This is what causes awkwardness.ajax11 said:Social akwardness=not having social skills. It means saying the wrong things, interpreting relationships and friendships the wrong way, basically meaning someon who doesn't have any experience in this area. You overcoming this by socializing and making friends.