"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i am me

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since were all back in school, im jus wonderin how yall are doin now wit the females...makin any progress? if not then maybe i could try to help u out
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quiksilver

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IOI's from 3 different girls. One of them I'm interested in, its going well, already got a number :) another is giving me IOIs but isn't my type. The last is the most awkward...She's my close friend's sister, and has been givin mad IOIs. She's pretty hot, but...she's my friends freakin sister! I've been playin that one cool, leaving the door open essentially...

Not bad for the first week, not bad at all!
 

asdfghjkl

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For me, it is amazing how much of a difference the summer made. I knew about all the stuff before the summer, but i never really applied it to multiple girls, only my sad one-itis's.:(

But this year, im just being my natural ****y, confident self and im getting a lot of IOI's from a lot of girls, and suprisingly, a better rep with the "popular" guys because of it. (Note: I use parenthesis cause i dont really care about that, cause who wants to be popular with guys anyway.):rockon:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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eminence

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Eh it kind of sucks for me, last summer 2005 I made a pretty big transformation into a really good looking guy, and I was one of the more attractive guys in the school, now this year I can honestly say I AM the most attractive guy. Yet i'm still insecure, i have social anxiety......so it still is hard for me to cold approach girls, and it seems like not many who don't know me won't approach me either, I don't know if it's because i'm so attractive or what. I catch girls staring at me all the time, and i'm a lot more confident then last year, I can at least hold eye contact, before I'd just instantly look away, or if a girl starts a conversation with me I can hold one pretty well.

When it comes to talking in class, getting called out by the teacher, and cold approaching I just bite it....i'm trying to push myself so hard but my anxiety just holds me back, and it sucks...because I know I have so much more potential then the rest of the guys in the school, I just wish I could get rid of my insecurities instantly by taking a pill, but after 2 years of trying to fight this I realize it's going to take more then being on medication, and more time then I expected.
 

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Things have been good. I haven't even really been trying.. talking, kino, getting attention, and C+F, all that has become second nature now. So I am finding myself fishing in these girls I'm not even really interested in. I have a few cute girls that I am talking to in a few classes, and I have two exes (oh god) that are obviously interested. Right now I have my eyes set on one of my exes best friends.. sounds like a bad idea in theory, but the ex likes me now so it will probably improve my status once they start fighting over me, and slightly entertaining.
 

mpimpin

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Best year yet:up:
 

AlexTheGreat

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Well I just started university, and I can already say I did pretty good. In 2 days since first seeing this uni chick, I got to approach her and hooked up with her. Outside school, I got this girl I'm dating, and two of her friends that are interested as well. So I can say my summer's been good to me, and that the year starts strong ;)
 

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I date 2 girls, one being LTR material.

University around here starts on the 1st october so nothing special until then.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ascalon

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I start school after a week(15th September) but i can say that this summer was not a waste of time as i thought at the begining. Damn,I feel so confident now! Because of this site and you guys :wave: i became rather ****y&funny. I date with some girls I don't really like , but after week or two i think my dreams will come true,and if this happens I will post here a pic of the coolest chick in my city :)


Wish me a good luck,because i will need it :)
 

dannowillbookem

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my ex girl janey (whos probably the prettiest thing i've ever seen) decided she didnt hate me so much anymore and we hooked up on her couch and we might date; i have another girl neecole who goes to a different school and is obsessed with me, we make out on occasion and have been talking lately, we might date; i was interested in a girl but she was a total biitch one night so fucck her. i've gotten some ioi's but nothing to really overthink. i'm focusing more on school but usually thats best for you game.
 

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well.. i have a few question:
what can i talk about? i know this gril.. i talk to her everyday on morning but rest of the schoooltime im just like a stone.. i dont know what to say, cuz i have talked to her b4 about "how shes doing etc" but when we have freetime or sitting in caffee im just a stone.. my mouth doesnt open.. i realy dont know what to talk about then.. same with, when im with group of people.. :8 its sucks

And i have this.. I want to say it but my mouth dont want to open, i think im afraid to well say something wrong etc..


can somone givme a advice?.. and thhis isnt ADULT-talk but more Slang/youth boys talk.. not so REAL.. feels like kinda akward when you are starting a adult-subject orsomething:... anwyay do somone have advice?..
 

i am me

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jus say somethin like "wuts up, anythin excitin happen today?"

if u cant think of anythin to say then ur thinking too much. stop thinkin wit ur mind and jus think on instinct, let it flow...u mite not think u can do this but everyone can, some jus never tried
 
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