Well my LTR of 2.5 years was getting pretty chubby and starting to become unattractive to me so I decided to do something about it.
Now telling your LTR she is getting fat is no small task but you can survive and she will even love you for it. Here a few tips that helped me.
Complements are earned and should be given when she goes to the gym or eats healthier. "I'm proud of you", "you're doing great", "way to go", are all fine options. Save the "your looking sexier" for after she looks sexier to you. There is really no point in lying so if she is not looking hot to you don't say "you look hot". If she lost a bunch of weight and you find her more attractive that is great but remember to keep supporting her healthy habit.
I think someone here said relationships takes maintaining 3 things: You, her, and the relationship it's self. You managed to kill 3 birds with one stone here.
1: You showed you are not an AFC yet still supportive
2: She is healthier and will have more energy.
3: The relationship will benefit by there being more physical attraction.
Worked well for me. 2.5 years no arguments and now 10 pounds lighter and counting.
Now telling your LTR she is getting fat is no small task but you can survive and she will even love you for it. Here a few tips that helped me.
- Tell her the health benefits. Say your worry because you want her to be around a long time.
- Tell her you are becoming less attractive to her. Now the key here in my opinion is to point out there are other ways she can make herself more attractive (Dirty talk, clothes, toys, whatever). This will diffuse the ultimatum vibe and make it more of a conversation.
- Point out you will support her by buying healthy food(if she is a live in), going to the gym with her, joining clubs together, etc.
- Notice not once did I say threaten to leave. She is already going to be afraid of you leaving so there is no point in saying it even though that might be how you feel.
Complements are earned and should be given when she goes to the gym or eats healthier. "I'm proud of you", "you're doing great", "way to go", are all fine options. Save the "your looking sexier" for after she looks sexier to you. There is really no point in lying so if she is not looking hot to you don't say "you look hot". If she lost a bunch of weight and you find her more attractive that is great but remember to keep supporting her healthy habit.
I think someone here said relationships takes maintaining 3 things: You, her, and the relationship it's self. You managed to kill 3 birds with one stone here.
1: You showed you are not an AFC yet still supportive
2: She is healthier and will have more energy.
3: The relationship will benefit by there being more physical attraction.
Worked well for me. 2.5 years no arguments and now 10 pounds lighter and counting.
Man, can lose 1 lb or more per week, easily if you lie-recline/sit around a lot. Just put icecubes inside about a 2 quart ziplock plastic bag. squeeze most of the air out of it before you seal it, or you risk bursting the bag when in use! turn it upside down and seal it inside of yet another bag, removing most of the trapped air in this one, too. fold the bags inside of a towel, and put it under/up-against kidneys. If it feels too cold, wrap more toweling around it. Calories are a measure of HEAT, and you can "burn" them off by making your body work harder to stay warm. all your blood is constantly pumped thru your kidneys, guys. A lb of fat is 3500 calories, so if you burn 500 calories more than you eat, every day, that's 1lb less per week. watch out that you dont EAT more, or eat more of the wrong foods, ie, high fat, high sugar content.
