"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So who else received that email about making statements instead of asking?

Kev07

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Does this still apply to asking girls out to dances?


It's kind of weird just saying "hey! go to prom/homecoming/watever with me!"


but then again, last year, to my date, i "asked" her by saying this

"come with me!"
"where?"
"duh to jr prom =]"
"i'll think about it" and a day or 2 later says yes.

mmm thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Skilla_Staz

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Yes.

Tell her she should go keeps the ball in your court. ASKING her to go with you says "Here, take the ball, if you want to keep it, keep it, if you want to give it back, give it back. You have control"
 

dannowillbookem

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if she's interested, saying "you wanna go to prom" is gonna be a yes. if she only says yes because you played your dj mind games on her, then she'll probably be a really shiity date.
 
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