"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So where exactly are the AFC's?

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I as of late have been thinking about something

what exactly sets Don Juan's apart from other guys? what makes them special? why do women prefer a don Juan to a regualr guy?

MOst guys i have seen are fairly confident, have atleast something going for them, have girls that like them etc. decent Job's, not bad looking, and not afriad to talk to random girls

My gf gets hit on all the time guy random guys. guys who are as confident as the next guy with walking up to a girl and trying to game her.

there guys all think they are the sh1t. they all think they look good, and every girl should want them. they are confident and seem to be in control. These traits are shared with people who claim to be don Juan's

so i'm wondering exactly where are these guys who are so AFC that they don't get women. so AFC's that girls are pushed away by them? where are these guys? most guys seem pretty confident to me:confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jeffst1980

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It's more complicated than the acronym suggests.

An AFC isn't always a guy that can't get laid.

Contrary to popular belief, an AFC is perfectly capable of getting laid. There are married AFC’s, single AFC’s, AFC’s dating unattractive girls...even AFC’s dating hot chicks.

If you believe that getting laid will solve all your women problems, you have a lot to learn.

What makes an AFC an “Average, Frustrated Chump?”
His lack of IDENTITY.
His inability to STAND HIS GROUND
His MALLEABLE belief system.

An AFC will remain inactive until he is forced to react.
On the other hand, a DON JUAN will be in constant motion and therefore have nothing to react against.

A DON JUAN has a STRONG IDENTITY
A DON JUAN will ALWAYS STAND HIS GROUND
A DON JUAN has a belief system that he will defend with ALL HIS MIGHT.

Whereas an AFC spends all of his waking hours worrying about how women perceive him, a DJ doesn’t let the thought cross his mind.
Whereas an AFC follows the latest trends and fashions in an effort to fit in, a DJ follows his own muse instinctively.
Whereas an AFC waits for just the right moment to talk to that girl, or to ask her out, or to kiss her, a DJ understands that the PRESENT IS the right moment.

Women respond favorably to DJ’s and unfavorably to AFC’s. It has nothing to do with women wanting to be with JERKS. A TRUE DJ is remarkably kind because he has no insecurities. Aspire to be great and you shall be treated greatly.

Women are extremely intuitive in social settings and can sniff out an AFC in an instant.
The SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do to improve your life is INTERNALIZE the foundation of a DON JUAN—This is the cornerstone. It should dictate your beliefs, your interactions, and your goals.
 
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I was an AFC when I was in several relationships.

IF I had my heart set on just getting some, and lowered my standards a bit, I could get some most any night I wanted to. However, I am recovering from AFC. Read my threads, I am an AFC, but I am also working hard everyday to no longer be an AFC.
 
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Warrior74

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The average definition of Don Juan = Real man.

Guys here have taken the whole "Don Juan" Thing to some mythical meaning, like it means your better than the average cool confident successful guy. When in actuality its just being an average cool confident successful guy who is good with women. Most guys here haven't been that...so they need a handle on how to get there, hence the name. btw Don Juan is a stupid name, check out wikipedia to find out what the real Don Juan was all about. Not what you guys preach here.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don_Juan
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I would say a Don Juan is a super confident man.....
 
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Jeffst1980 said:
It's more complicated than the acronym suggests.

An AFC isn't always a guy that can't get laid.

Contrary to popular belief, an AFC is perfectly capable of getting laid. There are married AFC’s, single AFC’s, AFC’s dating unattractive girls...even AFC’s dating hot chicks.

If you believe that getting laid will solve all your women problems, you have a lot to learn.

What makes an AFC an “Average, Frustrated Chump?”
His lack of IDENTITY.
His inability to STAND HIS GROUND
His MALLEABLE belief system.

An AFC will remain inactive until he is forced to react.
On the other hand, a DON JUAN will be in constant motion and therefore have nothing to react against.

A DON JUAN has a STRONG IDENTITY
A DON JUAN will ALWAYS STAND HIS GROUND
A DON JUAN has a belief system that he will defend with ALL HIS MIGHT.

Whereas an AFC spends all of his waking hours worrying about how women perceive him, a DJ doesn’t let the thought cross his mind.
Whereas an AFC follows the latest trends and fashions in an effort to fit in, a DJ follows his own muse instinctively.
Whereas an AFC waits for just the right moment to talk to that girl, or to ask her out, or to kiss her, a DJ understands that the PRESENT IS the right moment.

Women respond favorably to DJ’s and unfavorably to AFC’s. It has nothing to do with women wanting to be with JERKS. A TRUE DJ is remarkably kind because he has no insecurities. Aspire to be great and you shall be treated greatly.

Women are extremely intuitive in social settings and can sniff out an AFC in an instant.
The SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do to improve your life is INTERNALIZE the foundation of a DON JUAN—This is the cornerstone. It should dictate your beliefs, your interactions, and your goals.
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In response to the title question...

they are ALL over the place! We aren't the only ones.

We are the only ones that sought help.
 
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