WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Ha. Me 3.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
^Hey Im a History buff too.
Cool.Ha. Me 3.
That doesn't make you a geek, it merely means that you have EXCELLENT taste in rock. I like old school metal too. to me, new metal sounds like sh!t. Back in the 1980s, they could actually sing and play guitar worth a damn. Also, where is Motorhead, Deff Leppard, and Sammy Hagar in that list?Originally posted by Stormbringer
Heavy metal and hard rock. Hard rock such as KISS, Zeppelin, early Van Halen, Rush, Deep Purple (see my user name), King's X, Scorpions, AC/DC, GnR, UFO, etc., heavy metal bands such as Iron Maiden, Judas Priest, Sabbath, Dio, Megadeth, King Diamond, Mercyful Fate, etc.., and to a lesser extent, some "hair bands"/pop-metal like Dokken, Ratt, Motley Crue.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You sound pretty cool if you ask me. You probably aren't creepy like a lot of the folks on here.padrote said:I play Dance Dance Revolution.
I play chess and am good at it.
I just quit World of Warcraft but I spent a lot of time on it.
I'm no dj either so don't do those things.
Stopped playing video games a lotcomic_relief said:shoot if all this stuff is uncool I must be one of the most uncool people here yet I manage to survive and hang out with the 'cool' kids.
I play video games alot
listen to country music
study alot
do up research papers for fun
read up on ancient cultures (big books maybe 800+ pages a book)
collect McD toys (yeah I know)
metal detect during the summer
stamp collect
coin collect
visit this site
and alot of other things
it is all how you handle yourself and don't make a big freaken deal and you will be fine. I made this mistake this year and I'm just getting over it.
Jariel said:Using this board too often when I'm supposed to be studying.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.