WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Ha. Me 3.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
^Hey Im a History buff too.
Cool.Ha. Me 3.
That doesn't make you a geek, it merely means that you have EXCELLENT taste in rock. I like old school metal too. to me, new metal sounds like sh!t. Back in the 1980s, they could actually sing and play guitar worth a damn. Also, where is Motorhead, Deff Leppard, and Sammy Hagar in that list?Originally posted by Stormbringer
Heavy metal and hard rock. Hard rock such as KISS, Zeppelin, early Van Halen, Rush, Deep Purple (see my user name), King's X, Scorpions, AC/DC, GnR, UFO, etc., heavy metal bands such as Iron Maiden, Judas Priest, Sabbath, Dio, Megadeth, King Diamond, Mercyful Fate, etc.., and to a lesser extent, some "hair bands"/pop-metal like Dokken, Ratt, Motley Crue.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You sound pretty cool if you ask me. You probably aren't creepy like a lot of the folks on here.padrote said:I play Dance Dance Revolution.
I play chess and am good at it.
I just quit World of Warcraft but I spent a lot of time on it.
I'm no dj either so don't do those things.
Stopped playing video games a lotcomic_relief said:shoot if all this stuff is uncool I must be one of the most uncool people here yet I manage to survive and hang out with the 'cool' kids.
I play video games alot
listen to country music
study alot
do up research papers for fun
read up on ancient cultures (big books maybe 800+ pages a book)
collect McD toys (yeah I know)
metal detect during the summer
stamp collect
coin collect
visit this site
and alot of other things
it is all how you handle yourself and don't make a big freaken deal and you will be fine. I made this mistake this year and I'm just getting over it.
Jariel said:Using this board too often when I'm supposed to be studying.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.