"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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so what should i do

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So I've been talking to an older woman for the past several weeks. We can see each other everyday but I try not to. We see each other at a school. She is not a student and she is very attractive. She's probably in her mid 30s while I'm in my late 20s. She's hot understand that and I like older women anyways.

Either way I think I gave to much to soon, I bailed out for a week and she actually sought me out after I retreated. At this point I had to confess I had no car because she was throwing all kinds of signals to take her out as well as sexual signals. Clearly showing me her T&A. She kind of seemed put off by my lack of "responsibility " if you will. She really gave me the cold shoulder so again I backed off and again her she came. This time showing me a coupon book, flipping through it without saying a word, i could have made suggestions but i really dont feel like spending dough right now.

It doesn't seem like she will pick me up, or respect me if I show up in a bus and wait for her where ever. I think I blew it, mainly because I think she expects more, especially respect.

I don't know tho. She has no problem(as far as I know) when I touch her, and she seemed to like it. I think she is really enjoying my attention, and seems genuinely intrested. I. I also think she is testing me alot as far as how much im willing to let her control and manipulate me. I think she would atleast give me one date but I think I need to also make her feel comfortable at the same time. Not having car makes me look like damn kid.

I think I jumped the gun, or maybe don't have a chance in hell. The last convo we had went well I guess, I didn't like how her back was to me a lot when she was sitting(used to face me a lot) but she loved my sexual joke, and appeared to blush when I kissed her hand goodbye. She must think I'm a damn idiot for supposedly not picking up her signals but I did and didn't act on them cause of my financial situation. Probably annoyed her to.

I'm thinking I should leave it at that, pop smoke and retreat for good. The question is, would she give a chance once I'm more independent(without doing it for her)? I don't want to come off as a loser, I just think she is smoking hot. She really responded well to me until I screwed up.?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Haven't you got a mate that can loan you the car? Or save up and get a limo that will impress for sure. This girl has definitely got it for you bro and TBH 35+ women go OFF! Do whatever it takes.....NO REGRETS!
 

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No not really, these aholes would rather see me suffer than score. I really think I blew it already. I acted to stupid and the only remedy is to pop smoke for a minute.

My whole thing is i don't want to put to much effort into a date. I know she will lose respect. I've thought about taxis and such, but i think she wants more than sex. Oh well time will tell. She is a fine ass woman really, atleast I think so.
 

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cantgetright said:
So I've been talking to an older woman for the past several weeks. We can see each other everyday but I try not to. We see each other at a school. She is not a student and she is very attractive. She's probably in her mid 30s while I'm in my late 20s. She's hot understand that and I like older women anyways.

Either way I think I gave to much to soon, I bailed out for a week and she actually sought me out after I retreated. At this point I had to confess I had no car because she was throwing all kinds of signals to take her out as well as sexual signals. Clearly showing me her T&A. She kind of seemed put off by my lack of "responsibility " if you will. She really gave me the cold shoulder so again I backed off and again her she came. This time showing me a coupon book, flipping through it without saying a word, i could have made suggestions but i really dont feel like spending dough right now.

It doesn't seem like she will pick me up, or respect me if I show up in a bus and wait for her where ever. I think I blew it, mainly because I think she expects more, especially respect.

I don't know tho. She has no problem(as far as I know) when I touch her, and she seemed to like it. I think she is really enjoying my attention, and seems genuinely intrested. I. I also think she is testing me alot as far as how much im willing to let her control and manipulate me. I think she would atleast give me one date but I think I need to also make her feel comfortable at the same time. Not having car makes me look like damn kid.

I think I jumped the gun, or maybe don't have a chance in hell. The last convo we had went well I guess, I didn't like how her back was to me a lot when she was sitting(used to face me a lot) but she loved my sexual joke, and appeared to blush when I kissed her hand goodbye. She must think I'm a damn idiot for supposedly not picking up her signals but I did and didn't act on them cause of my financial situation. Probably annoyed her to.

I'm thinking I should leave it at that, pop smoke and retreat for good. The question is, would she give a chance once I'm more independent(without doing it for her)? I don't want to come off as a loser, I just think she is smoking hot. She really responded well to me until I screwed up.?
Someone needs to read up on confidence.

EDIT: I really don't think you should weight all your ****in' chances with her on the fact that you don't have a car.
 
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