It's been said on this board, and there's some evidence to that in the dating game, that many women who consider themselves high on the physical attractive ladder, as well as by men, are often not very bright and seldom hold intelligent, decent conversations. In that light, I was wondering if folks on here have ideas about what kinds of women the so-called "intellectual men" (college professors, teachers, writers/novelists) tend to get with and where they find their future wives. I'm just curious because most of the women who've hit on me have tended to be for example, sixth to eighth grade teachers, high school teachers, etc. and most of them were very pretty, open-minded and down to earth. I wish I knew of any sure places where I could meet lady teachers in this damn city of Philadelphia. Interestingly, teachers, despite being intelectual, seem to have quite some spicy dating lives.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So What Kind of Women Do "Intellectual Men" Often Get With?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
A good looking woman that stimulates my mind definitely attracts me more than a plain good looking woman. At first I just thought it was intelligence that I was attracted to but I have come to learn that intelligent women out there that have little to no understanding of passion. So what I've come to appreciate are the more philosophical, artsy, opinionated, worldly yet loyal women.
More times than not I meet them in places of higher learning or adventure type tours (rafting, cross country skiing, mountain biking, etc.) If you get a chance, take a trip to Denver or Boulder, they're the norm out there.
More times than not I meet them in places of higher learning or adventure type tours (rafting, cross country skiing, mountain biking, etc.) If you get a chance, take a trip to Denver or Boulder, they're the norm out there.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I actually used to be a very good swimmer in my home country, but I haven't really swam or had a chance to do so since I came to the U.S. in 1998. The last time I swam was in 1999. People I talked to say that in that case, I'm gonna have to learn how to swim all over again. Black people can and are good swimmers too. LOL.
I actually used to be a very good swimmer in my home country, but I haven't really swam or had a chance to do so since I came to the U.S. in 1998. The last time I swam was in 1999. People I talked to say that in that case, I'm gonna have to learn how to swim all over again. Black people can and are good swimmers too. LOL.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
One of the things that differentiates a DJ is that he is comfortable in several environments. Think of the missed opportunity that being stereotypical ideals set. That's one of the worse things about living in the states. For a nation with so much opportunity, people constrain themselves with self inflicted limitations. What if you were in Switzerland, Spain, New Zealand? Would you still set these limitations?Frank2500 said:
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Francisco, don't take my response that seriously. I was simply joking, which is why I even wrote the three words "LOL." I'm not saying that I am opposed to doing such things. As you know though, the U.S. is a racist country, and both blacks and whites look at one race or the other strangely when members of either race are perceived to be doing things that they seldom do. Not that I personally care, but that's just the way it is and it's a shame.
Francisco, don't take my response that seriously. I was simply joking, which is why I even wrote the three words "LOL." I'm not saying that I am opposed to doing such things. As you know though, the U.S. is a racist country, and both blacks and whites look at one race or the other strangely when members of either race are perceived to be doing things that they seldom do. Not that I personally care, but that's just the way it is and it's a shame.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Got'cha.Frank2500 said:
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It's just a lame excuse that I hear primarily here in the States. People gave their lives fighting to allow everyone here to take part in all the opportunities that any American citizen has and so many people limit themselves by self segregation. Madness...
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tr0ublemaker
Don Juan
another generalization-inducing thread
not to say all generalizations are bad..its just these kind take it to a higher degree
not to say all generalizations are bad..its just these kind take it to a higher degree
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.