It's been said on this board, and there's some evidence to that in the dating game, that many women who consider themselves high on the physical attractive ladder, as well as by men, are often not very bright and seldom hold intelligent, decent conversations. In that light, I was wondering if folks on here have ideas about what kinds of women the so-called "intellectual men" (college professors, teachers, writers/novelists) tend to get with and where they find their future wives. I'm just curious because most of the women who've hit on me have tended to be for example, sixth to eighth grade teachers, high school teachers, etc. and most of them were very pretty, open-minded and down to earth. I wish I knew of any sure places where I could meet lady teachers in this damn city of Philadelphia. Interestingly, teachers, despite being intelectual, seem to have quite some spicy dating lives.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So What Kind of Women Do "Intellectual Men" Often Get With?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
A good looking woman that stimulates my mind definitely attracts me more than a plain good looking woman. At first I just thought it was intelligence that I was attracted to but I have come to learn that intelligent women out there that have little to no understanding of passion. So what I've come to appreciate are the more philosophical, artsy, opinionated, worldly yet loyal women.
More times than not I meet them in places of higher learning or adventure type tours (rafting, cross country skiing, mountain biking, etc.) If you get a chance, take a trip to Denver or Boulder, they're the norm out there.
More times than not I meet them in places of higher learning or adventure type tours (rafting, cross country skiing, mountain biking, etc.) If you get a chance, take a trip to Denver or Boulder, they're the norm out there.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I actually used to be a very good swimmer in my home country, but I haven't really swam or had a chance to do so since I came to the U.S. in 1998. The last time I swam was in 1999. People I talked to say that in that case, I'm gonna have to learn how to swim all over again. Black people can and are good swimmers too. LOL.
I actually used to be a very good swimmer in my home country, but I haven't really swam or had a chance to do so since I came to the U.S. in 1998. The last time I swam was in 1999. People I talked to say that in that case, I'm gonna have to learn how to swim all over again. Black people can and are good swimmers too. LOL.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
One of the things that differentiates a DJ is that he is comfortable in several environments. Think of the missed opportunity that being stereotypical ideals set. That's one of the worse things about living in the states. For a nation with so much opportunity, people constrain themselves with self inflicted limitations. What if you were in Switzerland, Spain, New Zealand? Would you still set these limitations?Frank2500 said:
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Francisco, don't take my response that seriously. I was simply joking, which is why I even wrote the three words "LOL." I'm not saying that I am opposed to doing such things. As you know though, the U.S. is a racist country, and both blacks and whites look at one race or the other strangely when members of either race are perceived to be doing things that they seldom do. Not that I personally care, but that's just the way it is and it's a shame.
Francisco, don't take my response that seriously. I was simply joking, which is why I even wrote the three words "LOL." I'm not saying that I am opposed to doing such things. As you know though, the U.S. is a racist country, and both blacks and whites look at one race or the other strangely when members of either race are perceived to be doing things that they seldom do. Not that I personally care, but that's just the way it is and it's a shame.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Got'cha.Frank2500 said:
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It's just a lame excuse that I hear primarily here in the States. People gave their lives fighting to allow everyone here to take part in all the opportunities that any American citizen has and so many people limit themselves by self segregation. Madness...
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tr0ublemaker
Don Juan
another generalization-inducing thread
not to say all generalizations are bad..its just these kind take it to a higher degree
not to say all generalizations are bad..its just these kind take it to a higher degree
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.