"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So, what do women find MOST attractive?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
NickSCFC2000
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Definately a gold digger mate...retired_dude said:
Be careful when you stand at the top of your staircase
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http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6345623.stm
""Under particular circumstances, high socio-economic status in males can be subtly counter-productive in terms of attractiveness as a long-term partner."
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Good article.NickSCFC2000 said:
Note that it was mentionned good looks were prefered by women in all circumstances
"Perhaps unsurprisingly, the University of Central Lancashire research found the 186 female students asked preferred good-looking men.
But within this group, when professions were taken into account, those good-looking men with medium status jobs came out top."
Kinda destroy the old "look don't matter" arguments. Not that it shouldn't suprised anyone that ever interacted with attractive women, just nice seeing it's back out by science.
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good article. Notice it said
"Perhaps unsurprisingly, the University of Central Lancashire research found the 186 female students asked preferred good-looking men.
But within this group, when professions were taken into account, those good-looking men with medium status jobs came out top."
Note it was mentionned women systematically prefer good looking men, sorta debunking the old notion that " look don't matter" I guess. Of course it shouldn't come as no suprise for anyone that ever interacted with attractive women.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Agrees. Women may deep down want or prefer attractive men but they still might end with less than attractive guys for whatever reasons.bigjohnson said:
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Dear god...billy007 said:
It's about knowing these girls. At uni all the fit girls are doing things like medicine, psychology, english, fashion, photography etc etc so if you're on one of these courses then you can get to know lots of women. You're then part of the crowd, you make friends and it goes from there.
If you're doing Maths, Physics, Engineering etc. EVEN if you're a cool/good looking/good body guy you don't have the luxury of meeting nice girls day in, day out and getting to know them. I mean sure guys on these kind of courses are typically nerdier/uglier etc etc but even cool guys doing such courses miss out.
I honestly don't believe it's much to do with any of the stuff on the list. All of those things help, all of them, some more than others, but from experience I find that the fit ones typically date guys on their course etc. or in that crowd. If you're not part of it all, you miss out. An ugly guy doing medicine has more fun usually than a good looing guy doing maths.
I wish I never did Maths and Physics at uni. :-|
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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You can clearly see who all the Keyboard Jockeys are and its sad.
Serious Question - Do some of you guys even actually go out and practice. Or do you just like that good feeling of being in a forums and not actually doing anything.
I don't care what anyone says PERSONALITY is the most important. If you beg to differ then go out there and open mixed sets where the guy is better looking than you or richer. You will see you'll get the same results.
Now about social status its rather broad. But if you are considering "HIGH VALUE" as social status then "Social Status" would be important too, even though a person's personality in itself could give him high value.
But on another note if you do have status in the specific grounds then you can get laid. (The manager in a diner who fuks his female staff, the subway manager who also fuks his female staff, the guy who is the party host, etc) This is because in that specific situation he is higher value. But put that same guy to get girls in the street and if he doesn't have PERSONALITY he won't get much.
There isn't any need for me to go any further than this, go out there and see for yourself. If you have game you will always do better than the Tough guy, rich guy, good looking guy. Even if the guy has GAME, if your game is slightly better than your getting the girl, because your slightly cooler.
If you don't even know how to compentently approach women then it will be hard to actually try this experiment out because if you don't have game of course the good looking guy is going to outshine you because you don't know how to convey your personality. This is the only reason why some of you are saying other things are more than personality.
You just a Keyboard Jockey, or you don't even know what your doing when it comes to approaching. 95% of the community doesn't even approach the amount of chicks needed to actually internalize most of this stuff. Heck just look at some of the posts here of guys focusing on one particular girl and trying to get her for months.