Hey guys,
First post here. I'm new to the forum and would like to know your thoughts on a specific situation that's been going on for around a month now.
There's this girl i met at a dance class. It's one of those college electives classes, and we just hit it off from the start.
The class only happens on Thursday mornings for about 2 hours, so that's the only time i get to have face to face interaction time with her.
Before going further i'd like to mention that there's only around 2 other guys in the class, and like 8-9 other girls. I'm naturally funny and outgoing so everyone just has a good time around me, i mix that up with dominant eye contact and smirks that reflect i kind of ''know something you don't''.
This is what's happened so far:
- Like i said, we instantly hit it off from the first week, so from that point to today, we always share a couple of fun dance routines during class, and she has a lot of fun with me. We get to laugh a lot, i get the chance to do some witty comments, lots of eye contact, and last but not least, lots and lots of kino.
- 2 weeks into the class, with the ice already broken between us, i decided to invite her out. Now, my college schedule only allows me to go out for breakfast, since it starts in the afternoon and runs into the night, plus i have my own company and personal projects (i'm starting a fashion brand in around 3 months) so time is somewhat scarce on my part.
When i asked her out, she said for the first time that she had a boyfriend. I responded telling her that it was fine, that i wasn't the jealous type; we laughed and kept the conversation going. After a couple of attempts it seemed pretty clear that i'd have to spend some more time getting more personal with her so i could get over the boyfriend barrier. I didn't let her feel it affected me the wrong way when i learned she had a bf, cause being honest with all you DJs, it actually didnt..I just shrugged it off and said ''ok cool, tty next class''.
- Next thursday arrives, and i felt like having a bit of amusement. When the time came to pick partners for the dance, i didn't pick her until the last couple minutes of class. So she saw me taking around 3-4 girls before her, having a good time with all of them, laughing, and overall being myself around the other girls. One of those girls included the teacher herself, who also has a great time with me. After we had to pick partners again, i could literally see her face light up as i approached her and said ''let's get to it, i don't have all day'' with a cool smirk on my face (i felt pretty Bond at that time hehe). After class ended and everyone took off, i saw her going for her car, and i shouted to her ''Hey ---, come over here, pass me your phone real quick''. She came back and handed me her phone, she then saw me adding myself to her contact list under the name '' ----- The Super Sexy Dancer'', then texted myself from her phone saying ''Hey sexyyy!!'' and i gave it back to her. She looked at it, laughed, and said ''Hahaha you're a naughty one''. We talked for about 6 more minutes and then we each took off.
Fast forward two days later, and i text her for the first time (this was all yesterday), thinking it could be a good thing to just share a couple of fun/flirty texts between classes. I'm gonna show you guys the exact conversation:
Me: Tell me something interesting that nobody knows about you (4:13pm)
Her: About me??? (4:18pm)
Her: I dont knoww (4:18pm)
Her: I'm very emotional (4:18pm)
Her: I feel a lot (4:18pm)
Me: Are you? that means you're an artist (4:33pm)
Me: Wild guess here (4:33pm)
Me: Monet fan? (4:33pm)
Until here, i think to myself that it's going pretty smoothly, i think im gonna get some good responses out of it, but she actually turns cold on me, and responds two hour later.
Her: Yeah (6:18pm)
Her: Van Gogh too (6:18pm)
I do the same and respond 4 hours later.
Me: People either love or hate the earless guy (10:29pm)
Me: I bet he's your favorite (10:29pm)
Me: Why do you love him? (10:29pm)
Im thinking this will get her to talk about why van gogh is her favorite artist, what does he make her feel, etc.
She does the same and responds 5 hours later, sounding uninterested.
Her: For his story (1:20am)
Now, at that time i was drinking with some friends and i might've been a little tipsy already, so i responded just 5 minutes after.
Me: What are you doing up so late little girl (1:25am)
Me: What are you up to (1:25am)
And she never texted me back. I obviously won't start contact again until around 4-5 days go by.
Honestly, i didn't think she'd act this uninterested over text based on all the reactions and interactions we have face to face. What do you guys think, is she just trying to put me off balance here? I want to ask her out again but i dont think over text would be a good idea, what do you guys make out of this? i wanted to include as many details as i could so you would shed some light on a newbie, aspiring DJ.
Thanks in advance!
First post here. I'm new to the forum and would like to know your thoughts on a specific situation that's been going on for around a month now.
There's this girl i met at a dance class. It's one of those college electives classes, and we just hit it off from the start.
The class only happens on Thursday mornings for about 2 hours, so that's the only time i get to have face to face interaction time with her.
Before going further i'd like to mention that there's only around 2 other guys in the class, and like 8-9 other girls. I'm naturally funny and outgoing so everyone just has a good time around me, i mix that up with dominant eye contact and smirks that reflect i kind of ''know something you don't''.
This is what's happened so far:
- Like i said, we instantly hit it off from the first week, so from that point to today, we always share a couple of fun dance routines during class, and she has a lot of fun with me. We get to laugh a lot, i get the chance to do some witty comments, lots of eye contact, and last but not least, lots and lots of kino.
- 2 weeks into the class, with the ice already broken between us, i decided to invite her out. Now, my college schedule only allows me to go out for breakfast, since it starts in the afternoon and runs into the night, plus i have my own company and personal projects (i'm starting a fashion brand in around 3 months) so time is somewhat scarce on my part.
When i asked her out, she said for the first time that she had a boyfriend. I responded telling her that it was fine, that i wasn't the jealous type; we laughed and kept the conversation going. After a couple of attempts it seemed pretty clear that i'd have to spend some more time getting more personal with her so i could get over the boyfriend barrier. I didn't let her feel it affected me the wrong way when i learned she had a bf, cause being honest with all you DJs, it actually didnt..I just shrugged it off and said ''ok cool, tty next class''.
- Next thursday arrives, and i felt like having a bit of amusement. When the time came to pick partners for the dance, i didn't pick her until the last couple minutes of class. So she saw me taking around 3-4 girls before her, having a good time with all of them, laughing, and overall being myself around the other girls. One of those girls included the teacher herself, who also has a great time with me. After we had to pick partners again, i could literally see her face light up as i approached her and said ''let's get to it, i don't have all day'' with a cool smirk on my face (i felt pretty Bond at that time hehe). After class ended and everyone took off, i saw her going for her car, and i shouted to her ''Hey ---, come over here, pass me your phone real quick''. She came back and handed me her phone, she then saw me adding myself to her contact list under the name '' ----- The Super Sexy Dancer'', then texted myself from her phone saying ''Hey sexyyy!!'' and i gave it back to her. She looked at it, laughed, and said ''Hahaha you're a naughty one''. We talked for about 6 more minutes and then we each took off.
Fast forward two days later, and i text her for the first time (this was all yesterday), thinking it could be a good thing to just share a couple of fun/flirty texts between classes. I'm gonna show you guys the exact conversation:
Me: Tell me something interesting that nobody knows about you (4:13pm)
Her: About me??? (4:18pm)
Her: I dont knoww (4:18pm)
Her: I'm very emotional (4:18pm)
Her: I feel a lot (4:18pm)
Me: Are you? that means you're an artist (4:33pm)
Me: Wild guess here (4:33pm)
Me: Monet fan? (4:33pm)
Until here, i think to myself that it's going pretty smoothly, i think im gonna get some good responses out of it, but she actually turns cold on me, and responds two hour later.
Her: Yeah (6:18pm)
Her: Van Gogh too (6:18pm)
I do the same and respond 4 hours later.
Me: People either love or hate the earless guy (10:29pm)
Me: I bet he's your favorite (10:29pm)
Me: Why do you love him? (10:29pm)
Im thinking this will get her to talk about why van gogh is her favorite artist, what does he make her feel, etc.
She does the same and responds 5 hours later, sounding uninterested.
Her: For his story (1:20am)
Now, at that time i was drinking with some friends and i might've been a little tipsy already, so i responded just 5 minutes after.
Me: What are you doing up so late little girl (1:25am)
Me: What are you up to (1:25am)
And she never texted me back. I obviously won't start contact again until around 4-5 days go by.
Honestly, i didn't think she'd act this uninterested over text based on all the reactions and interactions we have face to face. What do you guys think, is she just trying to put me off balance here? I want to ask her out again but i dont think over text would be a good idea, what do you guys make out of this? i wanted to include as many details as i could so you would shed some light on a newbie, aspiring DJ.
Thanks in advance!
Better not catch feelings when I take you out for a strictly platonic cup of coffee this Thursday. You're allowed to have friends, right? (Indirect + Diffuses ASD--Safe, high probability play for someone in your social circle)