In my quest to stop having sex with ho's, sluts, and single moms, I met this girl at the gym about two months ago. She didn't seem very interested. So I forgot about her. I didn't see her for about a month but I saw her again tonight. I talked to her for about five minutes. I still don't think she is really interested because she doesn't ask me any questions. I'm the one who asks the questions. She also cannot make eye contact with me, she always looks down or away sometimes. So it's been very brief encounters. Today I noticed that she changed her hair so I said "You look different, is it the hair or something?" She touched her hair and said "yeah (smiling)". I said "it looks nice (smiling). She started smiling and blushing a little. Then I had to go and was running late so I said "well, have a good workout". She said "okay bye". So what's the next move? I have no idea if she's single or whatever. I have been playing it cool but don't know what the hell I should do next. Just ask her out? I don't see too much interest.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So there's this chick at the gym.....
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
You know, you could've asked her out right there.trent81 said:
I know I could have, but I guess you can never take it too slow with women. I just don't see too much interest to lay myself out there, besides, the encounters have been very brief. This is only the second time I have spoken to her. I just found out where she works today. Very, very brief encounters.